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[judybean]

You mamas of multiples are awesome. I cannot fathom the work your body is doing in growing two or even three new people! It blows me away with awesomeness! You mamas ROCK!!! Keep on baking those babies as long as you can!

Sex-- it would be happening a whole lot more here if it wasn't a million degrees in the house. When it's still 84* at nearly 11pm outside, that means it's at least that hot inside and I can't even think of doing it. If it's not hot, we stay pretty active and even get some good streaks going (like, every night for maybe a couple weeks in a row!). Dry streak lately though and it's not fun.

Today for lunch we went to MILs and she has an electronic wrist blood pressure monitor so I checked my bp.... it was 101/53!! Even if the wrist cuff isn't spot on, I figure it has to be close. Big sigh of relief on that front.

[MadiMamacita]

Originally Posted by mamalovex3 




 I went to a local store called Milkface and spent about $100 per bra. 

[Yeeska]

Hey, I'm mostly lurking, but just wanted to speak up for Miranda. Studies have found that perineal massage doesn't actually help, so if it's causing you pain or stress, don't do it. The whole thing is as silly as roughing up your nipples ahead of time, if you think about it. I know I tried it with my first, hated it, and was relieved to learn there was no good reason to continue doing so. Anyway, just thought I'd let ya know. It's been studied. No reason to do it if you don't like it.

[ascher21]

perenial massage: thank goodness, I've not been looking forward to that very much! I tried it a few times early on and I remember thinking "this is tiresome, and how the heck is my husband going to do this if I can't even do it??"

my midwife appt: My midwives are so weight conscious! Which is crazy because they are so about homeopathic medicine, natural methods, etc, you would think that they'd just go with the flow on whatever I gain. Today I got the same dose of questions: "are you exercising?" Yep, swimming, yoga, and walking/aerobics. "How do you eat?" very well, thanks. "Do you eat a lot of carbs?" mostly whole grains, and only the Brewer Diet recommended dose. Next time they ask me about my weight gain I'm going to let them know about the day I restricted my intake and nearly fainted on the couch. Then maybe they'll shut up about this crap.  I know what i'm doing is fine. 

Anyway, besides that, baby is head down! I also had a wonderful dream last night that I met Benji. He looked just like his dad did when he was a baby and every time he smiled my heart melted. It was the happiest dream I've had in a long while.

Now I think I'm going to have some chocolate--so there!!

[Carlin]

Ascher, sorry your midwives are bugging you about weight. Can you decline weigh ins? I track my own and will go to my midwives with it if I think there's an issue, but they don't even ask most appointments.

That sounds like a fantastic dream! I haven't dreamt about the baby much at all. Last night I dreamt that I decided to poison my dog :( for some reason, then found our cats swimming in the fish tank. I have no idea what sort of symbolism that's supposed to be!

Judy, yay for low blood pressure. It sounds like you were super stressed when you had it taken last, so this is probably way more accurate.

MamaloveX3, my SIL is rather well endowed (I think she's about a 36 F when not nursing, and significantly larger when she is) and she spends that kind of money on bras regularly. I think once you reach a certain size, it's more than worth it to invest in a comfortable,well fitting bra. I know it makes a huge difference to her and totally eliminates any neck/back/shoulder pain she exeriences with cheaper bras.

I'm not in a difficult to fit size range at all, but as far as nursing bras go, I found that I liked a more forgiving sports bra type design for th first 6 weeks or so, then after things settled down, I could go with a more structured bra to give the girls a bit of lift. :)

[hyde]

Quick whine: Ugh, I picked up a cold somewhere, and it is kicking my butt. :\ Really rough night, and today I just feel weak and achey. Trying to rest up and get plenty of fluids, and hoping this isn't going to be one of those two-weekers that other mamas have posted about.

[MotoMom]

Judybean- yay for blood pressure!

Ascher- My midwife really only had a few things to say about weight gain. Just that it's a lot harder to get off than it is to put on and if you gain more weight you just might have to work a little harder to lose it later. The only issue she's seen is when women don't lose it afterward and then keep gaining more with each subsequent pregnancy until they're dealing with obesity. 

Hyde- sorry about the cold! :( Good luck and lots of rest to you.

[Ava's Mama]

Hi Everyone!  This thread has been so busy it is hard to keep up! 

Someone mentioned probiotics.  They are AWESOME!  My homeopath had me start taking them (I normally take them on and off if I am having digestive issues anyways) around 26 weeks and they REALLy help my digestion.  I remember with DD being soooooo constipated and having hemroids.  Now with probitics I feel awesome and go two or three times a day.  I don't know about you all but the second my intestines get full it totally starts braxton hicks contractions!  OK, sorry about the poo talk!

I had a midwife appointment today (I am 35 weeks!) and baby is in perfect position.  I have most all of my birth supplies, just need a gather a few more things from around the house.  I will probably install the car seat next week or so.  I am trying to do more reading about birth and I am hoping that maybe tomorrow evening I can try to watch some birth videos etc to get my head in the game.

[Monkey Keeper]

I just need to vent.  It is after 11:30PM where I am. I am EXHAUSTED after 2 fun days at a water park with my kids and a crappy night of hotel sleep sandwiched in between. This child in my womb has its head rammed up against my ribs and WON'T STOP MOVING. Every time I lie down, a dance party starts and I have to get up to pee because there are feet dancing on my bladder. Or kicking the side that is next to the mattress. And even if the baby were quiet, I'm not sure I could sleep. Because of this stinking insomnia. Oh, and also because my husband can fall asleep in the blink of an eye and immediately begins snoring.  It's one of those times where I feel crazy because all I want to do is sleep and I can't....

[ascher21]

Motomom: Thank you for that explanation. I think they told me that early on. But if they only knew how body concious I am when I'm not pregnant, there's no way I'd let myself get obese. And I really don't think I'm looking that big. Even if I only gain 7 more lbs, that only puts me slightly above the limit. So I'd be at 39 instead of 35. Not a huge amount. I'm sure they're not picking on me, but that's what it feels like. For goodness sakes, I'm not sitting in front of a t.v. all day eating 5 cartons of ice cream! If they say something next week I just might cry. but I suppose that's just the hormones. It's bringing up all these old things I'd thought I'd buried. :(

Carlin: I'm just not going to tell them next week and let them ask me. I've always been the first to say something, so this time I won't. And if they bother me again I'm going to tell them this is stressing me out more than it's helping. It's bringing up old issues and I'm doing my best.

Judybean: I'm glad your bp went down!

MonkeyKeeper: I'm sorry! My husband snores, too, and sometimes he just BREATHES really loud. I can hear him above our sound machine, which I take with me to every hotel we stay at! If I don't get to sleep at the same time as him I'm struggling. And yes, he goes to sleep with no problems, sleeps through everything. I've always been a light sleeper and I've always woken up 4 times a night, so I am so envious!

Hyde: I hope you feel better soon! I'm so sorry you got sick! I had a cold way back in 1st trimester and that alone kicked my butt for 2 weeks.

Still waiting for my UTI test results, which should come through on Monday. Yesterday I had cramping in the bladder area, so I'm starting to think I actually do have one. My doula suggested heat and some essential oils ( in addition to the midwife treatment of vitamin c and cranactive) but I kept thinking...if baby's head is down, does that mean I'm overheating him??

[help007]

Originally Posted by ascher21 

I'm sure they're not picking on me, but that's what it feels like. For goodness sakes, I'm not sitting in front of a t.v. all day eating 5 cartons of ice cream!

Have you considered telling them this, exactly? It is difficult to be completely honest sometimes, especially when pregnancy creates a tendency to cry at the drop of a hat. However, I think you may have a much more pleasant time for your next many visits if you try to be honest and open.

[Carlin]

Ugg, what a night. I had to call 911 on our neighbours across the street (who I don't know at all) as they were having what sounded like a drunken screaming match on their front porch. My gut feeling is that the woman was just drunk and angry, but nonetheless, when someone is screaming 'help, someone, call the cops' I figure it's better to give them the benefit of the doubt just in case.  Of course, they all shut up just before the police arrived, so I don't think anything came of it. Once the excitement was over, I finally got DD to go to sleep at about 11:30, then thanks to baby number 2 deciding it was time for a dance party I was awake until just past 1. DD then woke up at 4 and didn't settle back down until close to 5. The dog wanted out at 7, and the cat decided to scratch at the bedroom door off and on between 7:30 and 8. Shortly after that, I got a phone call that my cousin's husband is in the hospital with meningitis, which would suck anyways, but we were at a family wedding last weekend and my DD and theirs spent pretty much the whole weekend together, so I guess I need to watch all of us for exposure too.

I was hoping to take advantage of the long weekend and do some fun family stuff when DH gets back from a work trip later this afternoon, but now I think I might just have a nap instead.

Anyways, hope everyone else has a nice, relaxing weekend. It sounds like a bunch of us need a chance to destress!

[ascher21]

Originally Posted by Carlin 

Ugg, what a night. I had to call 911 on our neighbours across the street (who I don't know at all) as they were having what sounded like a drunken screaming match on their front porch. My gut feeling is that the woman was just drunk and angry, but nonetheless, when someone is screaming 'help, someone, call the cops' I figure it's better to give them the benefit of the doubt just in case.  Of course, they all shut up just before the police arrived, so I don't think anything came of it. Once the excitement was over, I finally got DD to go to sleep at about 11:30, then thanks to baby number 2 deciding it was time for a dance party I was awake until just past 1. DD then woke up at 4 and didn't settle back down until close to 5. The dog wanted out at 7, and the cat decided to scratch at the bedroom door off and on between 7:30 and 8. Shortly after that, I got a phone call that my cousin's husband is in the hospital with meningitis, which would suck anyways, but we were at a family wedding last weekend and my DD and theirs spent pretty much the whole weekend together, so I guess I need to watch all of us for exposure too.

I was hoping to take advantage of the long weekend and do some fun family stuff when DH gets back from a work trip later this afternoon, but now I think I might just have a nap instead.

Anyways, hope everyone else has a nice, relaxing weekend. It sounds like a bunch of us need a chance to destress!

 holy cow! I hope everyone is alright!!

[SilverMoonMama]

Originally Posted by katt 

No, you are not.  DH is not interested, has NO drive whatsoever and I'm all... HONEY!!!!  come on... he's all... if i have to.  What a way to kill WHATEVER moment there may have been.  um... this is not always when I'm PG either.  He initiates NOTHING and I'm sick and tired of trying to initiate when he has NO clue what i'm trying to do.  I have to come right out and say it and then he's all... it's not spontaneous enough.  WTF!  be a man and want sex!  ARGHH!!!!!  

okay, vent over.  just know you are not alone.

This is the EXACT same with me! He never Initiates and then he says im always to suddle and then when i come right out with it the mood is ruined...i think he expects me to just go up to him and take of his pants and be like well this is happening! but i think it i were to be that blunt he would be weirded out IMPOSSIBLE! ive gotten to have a pretty F it attitude about it at this point :/.....

Perineal massage: (i feel like im spellling that wrong but my brain is gone so forgive me.... i dont know if it has any effect before hand but it WAS very helpful for me during the birthing process itself, my midwife did this while i was in the pushing stage and help to get me streched gradually around the babies head and i had my first LO with no tears whats so ever which i think had alot to do with her doing this for me..

[mamalovex3]

Originally Posted by ascher21 

perenial massage: thank goodness, I've not been looking forward to that very much! I tried it a few times early on and I remember thinking "this is tiresome, and how the heck is my husband going to do this if I can't even do it??"

my midwife appt: My midwives are so weight conscious! Which is crazy because they are so about homeopathic medicine, natural methods, etc, you would think that they'd just go with the flow on whatever I gain. Today I got the same dose of questions: "are you exercising?" Yep, swimming, yoga, and walking/aerobics. "How do you eat?" very well, thanks. "Do you eat a lot of carbs?" mostly whole grains, and only the Brewer Diet recommended dose. Next time they ask me about my weight gain I'm going to let them know about the day I restricted my intake and nearly fainted on the couch. Then maybe they'll shut up about this crap.  I know what i'm doing is fine. 

Anyway, besides that, baby is head down! I also had a wonderful dream last night that I met Benji. He looked just like his dad did when he was a baby and every time he smiled my heart melted. It was the happiest dream I've had in a long while.

Now I think I'm going to have some chocolate--so there!!

This is so strange because my midwife last time never asked me about my weight.  It was so nice to just be able to not worry about it for once.  I gained about 35 lbs.  This time around, my midwife always checks plus the high risk people at the hospital and I've gained about 45 already and just hit 34 weeks.  Don't worry about justifying your weight, all women gain differently, and even differently with each pregnancy.  As long as you're not eating junk all day, you're fine!

Originally Posted by Carlin 

MamaloveX3, my SIL is rather well endowed (I think she's about a 36 F when not nursing, and significantly larger when she is) and she spends that kind of money on bras regularly. I think once you reach a certain size, it's more than worth it to invest in a comfortable,well fitting bra. I know it makes a huge difference to her and totally eliminates any neck/back/shoulder pain she exeriences with cheaper bras.

I'm not in a difficult to fit size range at all, but as far as nursing bras go, I found that I liked a more forgiving sports bra type design for th first 6 weeks or so, then after things settled down, I could go with a more structured bra to give the girls a bit of lift. :)

I've been doing the sports bra thing for pregnancy but once I am not feeling like a whale, I like to have a real bra that fits and gives me nice boobs :)  Having a good supportive bra that keeps the girls looking nice is totally worth the money.  And you just can't get those sizes anywhere. 

[judybean]

hyde -- so sorry about the cold. They're miserable in even the best of conditions, but hugely pregnant is just the worst.  I hope it passes quickly for you!!

Monkey Keeper -- Not sleeping makes e.v.e.r.y.t.h.i.n.g. miserable.  Seriously.  The sun could be shining and it will feel like it's just beating into your eyes and causing more of a headache -- just because you've had no sleep.  This baby #5 in my belly thinks nighttime is the best time for busting some sweet moves.  While movements are always reassuring and welcome, I sure wish this baby would get the memo that late at night while I'm trying to sleep really isn't the most ideal time for all this.  ... Plus, my dh snores.  Right after he falls asleep in 0.7 seconds -- sometimes before his head hits the pillow I swear.  And?  He hears nothing.  Ever.  *I* get the joy of getting up with any kids that wake up (most often it's dd4) because I'm the only one who hears them.  I sleep so lightly that I wake to everything -- that is, if I can even GET to sleep. 

Ava's Mama -- that's interesting about the probiotics.  I really think I've been more regular this pregnancy than even while NOT pregnant -- that is, until about a week or so ago.  I have no idea what changed, but even with taking my Floradix AND taking the CalMag at night, I've been so uncomfortably stopped up (and gassy... ugh!) this week.  It's irritating, annoying, and a pain!

asher21 -- I'd really be irritated (and so upset!) if my midwife kept mentioning my weight.  You're eating well and clearly your body just needs to gain weight.  I've known plenty of other women in my DDCs that simply seem to gain a LOT of weight in pregnancy, but then lose it it afterwards because it's just what their bodies do.  If you need more weight to grow big, strong, babies, then go for it, I say!

Carlin -- that sounds quite frightening.  I'm glad you called 911 even if it didn't quite play out the way it was intended.  You still did the right thing and I applaud you for doing so.  Sorry you didn't get any sleep though... and I really hope you got a good nap in!!

re: massage of the pereneum -- Never done it.  Never really felt the need to... and yeah, I admit that I'm happy with the info that it might not do much good anyway ;)

AFM -- I'm exhausted -- mentally and physically.  Drove 1.5 hours south for a baby shower for a cousin and his wife for their first child -- a son -- due in November.  Had a great time, but it was over THREE HOURS LONG!  And then we had some shopping to do before coming home (did I mention it was just my four girls and I?!), then had to grab some dinner before heading home and didn't get home until nearly 8 p.m. ... And this morning I had to pick up our produce co-op basket at 7 a.m., then hit the Farmer's Market, then there was the county fair parade.. and ... our whole day was shot!!  And with the driving and already being tired (not much sleep last night and no nap!)... ugh... overtired headache from hell. 

But... it's bedtime.  Thank goodness.  Girls are restless though, so off I do...

[Worldshakerz]

I finally have internet access at home again so I can use my laptop instead of my phone, hurray!

It's a rainy day here in Florida. For various reasons I find we are stuck inside a lot. Either its so hot that being outside makes me feel like I'm going to pass out, or its raining. The pool is closed here at the apartment complex. I keep meaning to get up earlier in the morning to see if that would be a more tolerable time to take a walk but its been very hard for me to wake up in the morning. 

I've been having braxton hicks that feel painful and with them I'm also feeling lots of pressure down low, very crampy. It's very sporadic though. Is it prodomal labor? I'm 34 weeks, can prodromal labor happen this early? I never had this with my first two pregnancy, I had regular BH that didn't hurt and I didn't feel the pressure in my pelvic area/bottom like I do with these. I find myself resting a lot because of these. My days are sporadic bouts of nesting and resting. Overall, I feel like the 3rd trimester is kicking my butt! I'm trying not to feel impatient about having 5 or 6 more weeks to go!

[crystal_buffaloe]

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