DH and I are doing better. I started going a "30 day celebration of why I love/appreciate Aaron" - so every morning I put a sticky note on the mirror saying why I love/appreciate him. I didn't ask him to do it, but he liked how it made him feel so he is doing it now too.
It was also quick (it had been a while) which was good for me!
Isn't that cool how that works? I noticed that after I talked things out with DH and he started doing little things to make me happy, I was even more inclined to do more little things for him that I knew he would appreciate. I'm so glad you guys found a way to make your marriage a happier environment!
I love quick too!! Sometimes guys think they need to go forever and stave it off, but short and sweet is so much easier for my big, pregnant butt! I guess that's a nice side effect of not having the sex drive I used to: when it happens, it's been a little while. ;)
(but... my house? it's totally stressing me out. It needs so. much. work. and it's overwhelming and dh just says, "I'll take care of it, you need to rest," but then does nothing. *sigh* ... he doesn't realize how much MORE that stresses me out... because he WON'T do it.. not until it's almost past time it needs done and then he'll be all grumbly and huffy about having to do it, which stresses me out EVEN MORE! Gah!!).
Grrr! I HATE that! Word's ain't gonna cut it, buddy! I would much rather take on things myself then think I can rely on someone else and have them bail on me.
MissE, you're back! I'd been wondering where you were :)
He shows affection in a billion other ways, but it would also be nice if DH mentioned ONE TIME that he thought I looked great pregnant or anything along those lines.
Actually, this is kind of petty, but hey who can I vent to if not you ladies? Yesterday I met DH for lunch with some of his colleagues, I rode my bike to the restaurant and they drove in from the office . . . we all left at the same time so when he got home DH mentioned that his colleague (who is kind of a friend of ours) noticed I was on my bike . . . and instead of the comment or DH's response being something like 'cool that your wife is still active and riding her bike 8 months pregnant', the guy said that my saddle was down too low - and DH told him that he tells me that all the time but I never listen. :( I just kind of felt like why would DH even tell me that story, and why would he not have something positive to say about me instead of just agreeing with the guy? Guess I'm feeling kind of vulnerable to criticism these days!!
Is anyone doing perineal stretching/massage? It's a big thing over here, they have special oils for it and it's been recommended multiple times by my OB, my midwife, and our birth preparation class instruction. It can be done solo or with your partner, I tried it last night and big yikes was it sore. The DIY version you use two fingers, for the partner they use two thumbs - I'm a lil nervous to ask for his help at this point if it means two thumbs.
Well I LOVE that you're riding your bike! I'm so impressed and I bet you look so cute doing it! Guys are just dumb sometimes and you have to really coach them on the things you want to hear. I'll flat out tell DH exactly what I need to hear from him. Or sometimes the more gentle approach works. Tell him you really need to feel beautiful right now and if he told you so out of the blue it would just make you SO happy!
So, I tried the perineal stretching and I think it just made me feel nervous! Everything is so STRONG down there, it's daunting to think of it all moving out of the way! My doula said that the jury's still out as to whether or not stretching beforehand makes all that big of a difference, so I think I might just opt out.
Windycitymom- so sorry about the antibiotics! I HATE antibiotics and avoid them as much as possible. It sounds like you're doing everything you can with some good natural remedies as well and hopefully you can get everything figured out. I like to do a big variety of probiotics, too. Kefir, buttermilk, kombucha, sauerkraut, kimchi and also the probiotic pills that have as many strains as possible. There are ones that are encapsulated specifically to dissolve in the intestines. Although, because they stay intact in your stomach, I actually burped one up one time! Talk about a bizarre surprise!
Anybody else crazy protective of their belly? If DH accidentally puts any weight on it, I'll gasp really loudly like something terrible just happened. I remember one time recently where we were making out with him on top and I had this lightning fast reflex to shove him off of me as hard as I could when I could feel him starting to put weight on my baby.