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what is your favorite meal to cook? what is your favorite meal to eat?
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Just a general how are things right now?

What's one (big?) thing that you've done to prepare for the baby? What's one (big) thing that still needs to be accomplished/planned/made/bought/whatever?
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Just a general how are things right now?
What's one (big?) thing that you've done to prepare for the baby? What's one (big) thing that still needs to be accomplished/planned/made/bought/whatever?

 

Things are...kind of slow. I had all these big plans for the summer, and they really haven't come together. I don't know if you guys would have heard about the crazy storm we had in the eastern US several weeks ago, but we had 90 mph winds. It was wild. Now, most of our spare time is cutting up brush and hauling wood out into the forest to rot. No time for our big plans! 

 

It's been nice to take it slow, but I'm also wishing time would speed through the next two months! I know the baby is easier to take care of "on the inside," but I'm eager to meet her. We believe that this is our last baby, and I'm incredibly eager to see my family, completed, and be able to say, "Ok, these are the people I'm with." That probably sounds a little weird, but it's true.

 

On the plus side, this pregnancy has been a good deal easier than my last one. I've had chiropractic work done regularly since about 14 weeks in, and my hip pain has disappeared. I also had really bad leg cramps and ear pressure with my last pregnancy, but none this time (maybe because of the chiropractic work? Not sure).

 

Hm...I feel like I really haven't done much to prepare for this baby. My son is at a pretty demanding (and interesting) age--he's almost 2--and so I've mostly done things for him. I guess, also, since I've done this before, I know that a new baby needs practically nothing. We're planning to co-sleep and breastfeed. Most of my son's handmedowns are gender-neutral, so we have what we need. I did make a gobbi montessori mobile and I'm hoping to complete the rest of the series. I also want to make a (totally indulgent) raw silk ring-sling and do some shibori dye work on it.

 

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what is your favorite meal to cook? what is your favorite meal to eat?

Hmm...I really love cooking bread and soup meals in the fall. The summer is not my cooking season--we mostly just steam some veggies and throw rice together. But I love making thick, rich stews, and I love fall veggies.

 

My favorite to eat is probably saag paneer at a local Indian restaurant. I like eating stuff that I haven't ever cooked successfully. :)

 

I do feel bad that I've been sort of a lurker on this thread. I was way more active in my last DDC, but I'm a lot busier now! I *do* read a lot of everyone's posts, but I don't respond much.

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I can never cook Indian food successfully and I LOVE to eat it!

 

What other Montessori concepts do you like to use?

 

What are some things you'd like to do differently with this birth?

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I can never cook Indian food successfully and I LOVE to eat it!

 

What other Montessori concepts do you like to use?

 

What are some things you'd like to do differently with this birth?

 

We're a pretty Montessori-inspired household, though not purists (Oh, how I wish my house looked like any of those blogs!). We involve our son in doing as much as seems remotely reasonable for himself, and try to be accepting of messes (it's not a tragedy when he spills his juice, and we ask him to help us clean it up before we get the next glass). We practice EC, which I think is a very Montessori sort of thing. I've been impressed with Silas' interest in certain Montessori activities. They definitely build his attention span. When he was six months old, I was shocked that he spent about 45 minutes totally absorbed in playing with a basket of household and nature objects. More recently, he's really been into fine motor activities, like pouring things from one container into another. 

 

Wow. Well, my last birth was very fast (3.5 hours). I was terrified when I thought that the baby might come before the midwife got here! That was the only part of my first labor that I thought was painful or scary. So this time, I've asked her to PUT HER SHOES ON AND GET IN THE CAR when I call to tell her that I think things are starting up. I also was on my hands and knees and so I didn't see my son come out...this might sound dumb, but it took me a while to connect that baby outside with the baby that I had been feeling inside. It just didn't make any sense. This time, I'm hoping to use a birthing stool or some position that would let me see what is happening and maybe catch the baby myself (DH caught our son). I also made the mistake of going upstairs early in my labor--where we have only a teeeeeeny half bath (literally, about 3' by 4') and then I had a hard time convincing myself to come out of there. I certainly couldn't get downstairs to the shower, which I had hoped to use. This time, I am NOT going upstairs!

 

I also just read Ina May's Guide to Childbirth, and I'm interested in trying out "horse lips."

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Most of my son's handmedowns are gender-neutral, so we have what we need.

This makes me jealous! I suppose I can't really complain -- we haven't really bought my daughter anything clothing-wise except for shoes, and she's over two -- but practically nothing of hers is gender-neutral.

Do you think your DS has much concept that he's going to get a baby sibling?
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Ah, as a first time mama, I'm so excited about trying out a lot of Montessori concepts in our home - it's always good to hear from families for whom it's working! Do you have anything specific that you've liked a lot? And did/do you use the floor bed? I've been wanting to do that, but the process of choosing a mattress and setting up the room has intimidated me a bit!

 

And I feel you on the Indian food - the only place in town that made it (and made it REALLY well) closed down just under a year ago, and DH and I still have trouble deciding where to get take-out when all I want is some baigan bharta...

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This makes me jealous! I suppose I can't really complain -- we haven't really bought my daughter anything clothing-wise except for shoes, and she's over two -- but practically nothing of hers is gender-neutral.
Do you think your DS has much concept that he's going to get a baby sibling?

 

Yeah, I'm glad I had a boy first because I feel like the reuse for boy to girl is wayyyy easier than the other direction.

 

I don't think he gets it, really. Sometimes he pats my tummy and says, "Night night baby," and then other days he tells me that DH has a baby in HIS belly. He did seem to intuit that we were having a baby early on, though--even before I was showing, he suddenly started lifting up my shirt and patting my tummy (he would have been about 17 months old), and bringing me every book he could find that had babies in it. He *likes* babies and enjoys making faces at the little ones at church. I just don't think he has any concept of what it will be like for our family to grow like this. Does your daughter *get it*?

 

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Ah, as a first time mama, I'm so excited about trying out a lot of Montessori concepts in our home - it's always good to hear from families for whom it's working! Do you have anything specific that you've liked a lot? And did/do you use the floor bed? I've been wanting to do that, but the process of choosing a mattress and setting up the room has intimidated me a bit!

 

Yes, we DO use a floor bed, and we love it! We coslept with Silas until he was about 8 months old and then transitioned him to a floor bed. We actually just have DH's old futon mattress. I think it would have been too fluffy to be safe for a baby when it was new, but after 15 years of people sitting and sleeping on it, it's pretty firm. I loved it because I could nurse him to sleep and then just roll away--no awkward transfer into a crib (which is when he would wake up). We have his room really well toddler-proofed, so it's like he's in a giant playpen. I will say, I have NOT seen any of the Montessori-purported benefits of the floor bed, like the idea that your kid will just play happily until he's tired and then go lay down and sleep. Maybe it's a temperament thing, but my son will NOT willingly sleep--even if he's been up for 12 hours! YMMV. I really enjoyed the book Montessori from the Start, although I disagree with some of their statements on babywearing, cosleeping, and extended breastfeeding. Read it with a grain of salt, you know?

 

In terms of specific things that we love, I think having only a very small number of toys out at a time has been great--both for him and for my sanity. Also, remembering to FOLLOW THE CHILD is a great mantra. Not that I let him do whatever he wants, but that I don't push it if he doesn't like an activity I present, and that I try to expand on interests he's already showing. For example, he's super into rocks right now, so instead of sorting color pegs or something, we sort rocks into "big" and "little." I actually wrote a blog post a while ago on the stuff we learned in our first year, Montessori-wise, if you're interested. It's here: http://luciernaga.livejournal.com/2012/04/29/

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Oh! Thank you so much for the blog link! My parents put us into a Montessori preschool when we were little and I knew I wanted to learn more about it and enroll our son into a program too, but I never actually thought about using the concepts early on. (Uh-oh, another thing for me to nerd out on the internet about)

 

What's your love story - how did you meet your DH? 

 

What are your favorite hobbies?

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I'll second the thanks for sharing your blog! smile.gif DD can't get up onto the potty by herself even with a stepstool, either, and she can only get down by herself with very close supervision. She's really proficient pottying, but very small/short for her age, too (it looks like she's 3.5 months older than your DS). I really like to let her do things for herself (she gets into her booster seat at the table by herself, and she actually gets into the carseat by herself, too -- I open the opposite door and she can crawl across the seat and get in and then I buckle, she can put on one of her pairs of shoes by herself and she can take all of them off, etc.). I should check out a Montessori book from the library.

DD will fairly often pull up her own shirt and say the baby's in her tummy, too smile.gif I'm not sure she has much idea what's going on. We have several books and talk about it a lot, especially when we see babies places, but I don't think she really understands.

Where/when/how did you learn about photography?
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Oh! Thank you so much for the blog link! My parents put us into a Montessori preschool when we were little and I knew I wanted to learn more about it and enroll our son into a program too, but I never actually thought about using the concepts early on. (Uh-oh, another thing for me to nerd out on the internet about)

 

What's your love story - how did you meet your DH? 

 

What are your favorite hobbies?

 

DH and I actually met when I was 11! We were at 4H camp together (and were the only two people there who were...not into it), then in a community children's choir. After we ended up at the same high school, we started dating. We've been together for 16 years, almost. We *did* go to separate colleges, which I'm happy about, and I even did my first master's degree before we married. It was good to have our own lives for six years after high school. The distance thing gave us space to grow up, while still being very much in love. It's funny, people ask me sometimes if it is boring, being with one person for so long and from such an early age, but it doesn't feel like that. We've both changed so much, I hardly remember being the person I was when we got together (and I hardly remember what I saw in the person he was then....).

 

I like to write (mostly nonfiction) and bake. Besides that, I've actually been lucky enough to turn some of my hobbies into jobs. I taught myself computer programming just for fun, but now I do freelance web development work. I learned to sew from my mother-in-law and put myself through college by working as a costumer for the theater department--and now I have an etsy shop and get occasional gigs sewing for theaters and other custom work. I started directing plays when I was 15, and now I have an MFA in directing and do that for money, sometimes. Not much money, but still--it's fun to have jobs that I would do for free. Right now, I'm actually wrapping up work on my last play before the baby comes. 

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