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spotlight on Teegan!

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what is your favorite event to watch during the olympics?
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Well, my parents and my best friend from high school have been in town this past weekend for the baby shower(!), and we've all been spending a lot of time at my in-laws' (since they have every television known to man and we have... netflix), so it's been a lot of group decisions. I don't know that I have a favorite, but the synchronized diving struck me as outrageously impressive - two people jumping into the air (simultaneously) and twisting and flipping just as well as the gymnasts (but again, simultaneously) and then falling into a pool (without hitting the diving board) and making tiny little splashes (once again, simultaneously). 

 

Ask me again in a week, and there will probably be something else that I find crazy impressive. I'm not what one would call an 'athlete' - I jog (when not seven months pregnant), and I do a little yoga, but that's about it. 

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I laughed out loud when I read your post in this week's chat about 'your hungry caterpillar phase' in the 1st tri - I can completely relate and have also seen a plateau lately.  :)

What were you eating/loving?? What are some rituals that you're looking forward to with your baby? 

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What were you eating/loving?? 

 

Eating fruit! Cherries, apples, bananas, blueberries, the few very treasured blackberries i've picked on the backroads near our house. My MIL got cannoli for the baby shower - regular and chocolate - so I indulged in a few of those over the weekend.

 

Other than that, we're CSA members, so playing around with 6-8 pounds of organic veggies every week has been a lot of fun, especially knowing that I helped to plant a lot of it during the spring. DH and I are both vegetarians, so our meals tend to revolve around vegetables anyway. Lots of frittatas, salad, stir fry, and plain old marinated grilled things. I did make a cinnamon raisin toasting bread last week that was one of the best loaves I've EVER made. 

 

In the beginning of the pregnancy, I craved a lot of saltier things (PLAIN POTATO CHIPS! which i really couldn't care less about normally), but my midwives pointed out that my blood pressure was on the lower side (even though I didn't have any of the symptoms - dizziness, lightheadedness, etc), so I've upped the amount of sea salt in my diet by a pinch here and there and the salty cravings went away.

 

And I've started to relax on myself just a bit, so I have been enjoying my occasional single cup of coffee or half a glass of white wine - which has been delightful!
 

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 What are some rituals that you're looking forward to with your baby? 

 

I'm a first timer, so I'm sure many of the rituals in my head are either romanticized or made into the kind of nightmare situations people tell you about on their worst days.

I can't wait to start breastfeeding, for one thing. I've already started leaking colostrum, which neither my mother nor my MIL did ahead of time, so I'm hoping that's one small indication of hope that it will go well.

I see myself spending a lot of time in this next year walking on the beach with the baby nestled onto me somehow (we've already been given three different kinds of baby carriers) and the dog running around as she likes - living in New England, the beaches are empty from Labor Day to Memorial Day, and so we have it to ourselves during most of the year.

Family snuggle time with DH, of course - he's going to be a PHENOMENAL father. 

And then thinking ahead - my mother and MIL wrote on the shower invitations that we were trying to build a library for baby, so we now have a TON of books, some of which we loved as kids, some we've never seen before, and I'm already wondering which ones I won't mind reading 230957257906 times and which ones will be "lost" early on.

And there are holiday traditions - DH and I both have big families, and we both really love slowing down and celebrating and cooking.

 

Mostly, it's day-to-day things I think about at this point. I'll stop in the middle of a random Thursday and think "how will this be different in 3 or 6 or 12 months?"

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Mostly, it's day-to-day things I think about at this point. I'll stop in the middle of a random Thursday and think "how will this be different in 3 or 6 or 12 months?"
This is nice smile.gif

How long have you been a vegetarian?

Do any/many of your friends have kids yet?
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I've been a vegetarian for five and a half years - I made the change mostly for environmental reasons, but now I don't miss meat at all, and I like that most veggie options are mostly cheaper and somewhat safer. DH has been vegetarian for over ten years, and he's the first person I ever dated who was also vegetarian. I never realized how nice it would be until we got together - not having to compromise in my kitchen, being able to share food when we go out, not being the one vegetarian throwing off an entire cookout/party/gathering.

 

NONE of my friends have kids. I went to a state magnet high school, so most of my good friends from then are in the middle of graduate degrees or starting Very Important Careers. Most of the people I know from college are artistic, independent types who don't even think they want kids, let alone by their mid-20's. I do, of course, know acquaintances and friends of friends who are, but I'm the first of people I really know. On on hand, it means no hand-me-downs, no mama friends, somewhat blindly going my own way. On the other, my friends all just think it's really COOL. They're not experienced in this part of life, so there's no real judgment - just excitement. They're not biased. They're not jaded. I'm not having to defend my "crazy hippie" decisions (as many would term them). 

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The synchronized diving sounds really cool! I didn't even know that existed.

 

What's one of your favorite things to visualize about becoming a mother?

 

What happened when you first found out you were expecting and how did you tell your DH?

 

What is something about the pregnancy that you never expected?

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They're not experienced in this part of life, so there's no real judgment - just excitement. They're not biased. They're not jaded. I'm not having to defend my "crazy hippie" decisions (as many would term them). 
that is a great way to look at it!
I was sort of in that position when DS was born, but we had just moved to a new place so I didn't even have any local friends at all. I now have the best group of friends I have ever had, and our first round of kids are all about 6 months apart. They have me beat on the second round by a bit over a year though smile.gif

what is your least favorite household chore? (as I procrastinate all of mine!)
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The synchronized diving sounds really cool! I didn't even know that existed.

 

What's one of your favorite things to visualize about becoming a mother?

 

That's really really tough. I'm a writer and an introvert, so I've spent most of my life visualizing things happening even if they haven't yet or won't ever. Which means that for ages, since I first knew that DH was the man I was meant to have children with, I've thought about my life as a mother and ours as a family. I actually met DH through his brother and sister-in-law, and, at the time, they had a six month old girl (she'll be 4 in September). They were the first couple I knew with alternative parenting methods (and my sister-in-law was the first to introduce me to Mothering magazine!), and I spent a lot of time with them, helping out, watching what they did and how they did it. 

 

I love looking forward to breastfeeding. Even knowing that the beginning can/will be difficult and/or painful, I imagine a month or two in when we have our rhythm and I'm beginning to feel like a person again and I can really appreciate sitting in our living room, fire in the fireplace, watching milk dribble down my little one's chin, or rocking in the rocking chair in the nursery late at night, the whole world asleep except for the two of us (and, I imagine, our dog. She hardly ever fails to follow me when I get out of bed).

I love wondering what he or she will look like, whether darker like my husband (mostly Italian blood) or fairer like me (Dutch/Irish), whether with a mop of hair (like my husband as a baby) or bald as Winston Churchill (yep, I was that baby), dark eyes or light, freckles or none. I can't wait to see chubby baby thighs, to nibble baby toes, to watch baby fingers wrap around mine. And then, I know, it'll just go off like a rocket once there's crawling and solid foods and walking and running (DH was a very active, somewhat fearless little boy!) and signing and spoken words. I can't wait to introduce my child to everything in our neighborhood - the plants and birds and bugs in our backyard, the shady dirt road that leads down to the shore, everything on the beach. 

 

So, that's a lot of things, not just one...

 

 

 

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What happened when you first found out you were expecting and how did you tell your DH?

 

We had stopped using protection at the end of June, so by New Year's we were beginning to wonder if we were going to have problems. We'd said that we would wait until after the holidays to decide on when we should go to a doctor. Also, my cycles had been a little irregular - normally 35-36 days, in the past few months they'd been as short as 28 - so I was never really sure when I should be testing. I took a test in the first week in January - negative. A week later, the pipes froze to one of our bathrooms, DH was cranky and trying to defrost them, and I had one pregnancy test still upstairs. I told myself that if it was negative, I just wouldn't say anything, but maybe, if it was positive, he would feel better. So I went to our other bathroom, peed on a little stick, and there it was - a faint second line!

He was thrilled, of course. Later that afternoon, the pipes unfroze. The next morning, I took a second test - to be sure - and got another positive result. 

Not the most romantic story, but I think I can live with it.

 

 

 

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What is something about the pregnancy that you never expected?

Honestly? That it would be this easy. I had nightmares of morning sickness (since nausea is almost ALWAYS a problem on the first day of my period and whenever I'm hungover) and aches and having to pee ALL OF THE TIME and sensitivities and being put on bed rest and high blood pressure and swelling - well, you know. All of the awful stories women tell you about their own pregnancies. Not to mention, my mother had two miscarriages before my sister and I came along, and then we both were born early (I by 5 weeks, she by 7). I worried that I wasn't genetically designed for this baby-making business.

Instead, I had no morning sickness (just a lot of hunger). My midwives have been almost shocked by how consistently my blood pressure is healthy-low, how healthy-slow my pulse is, how well the baby is doing, how spot-on my weight gain has been. My cravings for the most part have been healthy things. I'm just now (at the end of week 33) beginning to get some aches in my lower back, but my overnight pee breaks have been minimal and there have been few other negative symptoms. I've been able to keep working a normal schedule, on my feet, for 7 hours at a stretch. The mood swings I've had are diminished by yoga, and DH has been SUPER CRAZY SUPPORTIVE, even during the weeks that I've cried and snotted all over him every night when he came home from work. 

Even though part of me keeps waiting for the Bad Parts to kick in, I'm really truly grateful for how everything has gone so far. 

 

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that is a great way to look at it!
I was sort of in that position when DS was born, but we had just moved to a new place so I didn't even have any local friends at all. I now have the best group of friends I have ever had, and our first round of kids are all about 6 months apart. They have me beat on the second round by a bit over a year though smile.gif
 

You have no idea how encouraging that is to hear! We've been here in Massachusetts for two years, but I still feel like I'm in the beginning stages of making long-term friends. Most people my age are doing whatever they can to get out of town and out of state, so it's difficult to hold on to friendships. I'm hoping that motherhood might introduce me to some people that are planning on sticking around for a bit. 

 

 

 

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what is your least favorite household chore? (as I procrastinate all of mine!)

 

 

I procrastinate on pretty much all of them, but DH knew before we were even engaged that I hate vacuuming and mopping. If forced, I will do them, but I cannot stand them. At all.  Fortunately for us, those are the two that he would rather do! Most of our house is hardwood flooring, and sweeping I can handle just fine. DH and I balance out on cooking and dishes (generally, whoever does one doesn't do the other) and we did balance out on laundry until now - he doesn't want me carrying loads up and down the stairs in my "condition."

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