Pregnant and Milk Drying Up
It's a tough spot to be in. My DD is 16 months old but she would be freaking out too if milkies were gone. I sympathize wholeheartedly and coincidentally, 12 months is when DD unequivocally ditched her binky and made me the only gateway to sleepy land. Sigh
Congratulations on your pregnancy, although I'm sorry that you're already seeing a drop in milk supply.
When I was pregnant I also experienced a drop around 8 weeks, and it seemed huge (I was using the breast pump while at work so I was aware of exactly how much it had changed), but for whatever reason my supply picked back up again after about a week....not to what it was, but close....until ~20 weeks (memory is fuzzy because I was starting to not enjoy nursing at this point). Hopefully you'll experience a similar increase. Your pregnancy timing and daughter's age are similar to my DD and pregnancy, and she ultimately nursed until the birth of my son despite the loss of milk, and then resumed again full-force once I had milk (to the point that I think she would have forgone solids for boobie if I let her). You may find that your little one doesn't wean, but adapts in the interim.
I know exactly how you're feeling. With this pregnancy, my milk was G.O.N.E. by 8 weeks. To make matters worse, my nearly 2 year old wouldn't eat solids, got very ill, and then subsequently dehydrated due to no other foods, and then ended up with severe tooth decay from the combined decrease in nutrition and high temp for a week. I have felt incredible guilt going through his tooth treatments, knowing that my milk drying up played a large part in it (along with his stubborness, lol). Over time, he adjusted and he still nurses (dry nursing) though not as often. He nurses 1, maybe 2 times a day, sometimes skipping a day. It's painful for me, so he latched on (very aggressive latch, too, I believe because he's still trying desperately to get milk) and then I give him a few moments before saying, "All done!" I'm anxious to get him milk again.
Just wanted to send you virtual . I know what you're feeling.