Originally Posted by MeepyCat
I absolutely do not think that you're a bad mom, but it does worry me that you're locking your ADHD four year-old into his room when he gets violent. That kind of thing makes me want to help your family get more services and help for your DS, so that he has fewer of this kind of outburst, and help for you, so that you have more energy and ability to cope when it happens.
Yeah, it is just sooo difficult. We don't live in the u.s. so it's probably even easier down here, at least we don't have to pay anything extra.
I just don't know what to do with him when he gets so wild. He destroys everything and hits his sister - even hit her with a plank one day - and he manages to find something to destroy as well. I got some tips today from his OT, but I am kind of lacking the energy of implementing it. I just want to curl up and hide somewhere. And he is such a sweet little boy and I love him so much. I want to help him so desperately.
I think it's just all too much at the moment, this mess with the Inlaws, my DH who is totally not supportive and emotionally just absent. Two ADHD kids and a high need baby.
And I feel so bad for even complaining since my friend gave birth to a little one who can not even breath on his own and probably never will. My son at least CAN scream.
Stopped making plans or obligations because it was putting way too much pressure on me. Playdates, activities, etc.
I already did this. I don't know if it makes life easier though. We had a playdate yesterday, the first in a couple of weeks. and the kids went beserk. when the visitors left, I told DD that I think the other kids were frightened of her, that made her cry. which made me cry. That was probably totally insensitive to say.
They are just sooo wild. And our living room/play area is about 60 squaremeter, so really enough space. And I honestly believe that the visiting family thought we are totally mad and will never come again.
Tomorrow we'll go to the library. Hopefully they are not going to throw us out.
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I so understand! It is just so overwhelming ...
(can you suggest a book or something on handling ADHD?)