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post #21 of 35

just DH and I know so far. I am kinda scared to tell people. We announced in March of this year and then had to announce our m/c in April. It was surprise enough in March (to many), heartbreaking in April and I really don't know if I am ready to do the announcing again. I have actually been wondering if I could hold out telling until the new year :) 

post #22 of 35

We've told only a handful of local friends. I have told one church friend and my neighbor. Josh has told his best friend. we told my parents and my two oldest children (one who cried happy tears and one who didn't believe me lol)...and then most of my online friend groups know. Oh and one friend-like-aunt....so several people but not many LOCAL people. we arne't telling anyone til after my dd's birthday party

post #23 of 35

I have only told my best friend and my sister.  Honestly, my boyfriend is going to completely freak out.  I have been on birth control pills since he moved in in January.  I have had two mildly abnormal paps and am scheduled for a cervical biopsy in 2 weeks.  My family and church are not happy with me living with bf and are going to be completely freaked out as well.  Sigh.  I want to be happy but am quite a bit stressed out at the moment, lol.  On top of that, I have been planning to move to Florida in May but now am going to up that to Thanksgiving or Christmas so have moving in the next few months on my plate!  Anyway, I am going to keep everything under wraps as long as possible.  Can't keep it from bf for long though - I will start throwing up in the next two weeks if the baby is viable and then he will put all the symptoms I am having together - crying, irritable, hungry, gained a few pounds, sleeping ALL the time.  I should have realized what was going on earlier and if he had ever been around a pregnant woman before, he would have put it together by now! :-P
 

post #24 of 35

I've been telling anyone who stands still long enough to listen. 

 

With the exception of my family and his family, who are thankfully mostly very, very far away.  Yeah, we're a repeat of the horrible family stories upthread.  And my DH knows there's no way I'll hold my tongue at the first sign of a sigh or a snide comment, so we just aren't telling any of them. ;)

 

love, p

post #25 of 35

it's going to be SO hard to hold my tongue this weekend. We plan to spread the news after the party. But not until it's over.

post #26 of 35
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Originally Posted by Ethelpea View Post

  • The man that caught my dog for me today

Heehee!  Love this!

 

I posted this in the chat thread but at 4 weeks and 6 days, I've already told

 

  • DP
  • my dental hygienist and dentist
  • my sister
  • and my midwife

 

in that order.  We are going to a big party this weekend and I will have to fake drink if I do not want to be outed.  Last time, our friends guessed when I turned down wine at a party.  I hate to waste good wine.  I guess my DP will have to drink for two!  This will take some teamwork.  orngtongue.gif

post #27 of 35
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Originally Posted by NaomiJoy2 View Post

I have only told my best friend and my sister.  Honestly, my boyfriend is going to completely freak out.  I have been on birth control pills since he moved in in January.  I have had two mildly abnormal paps and am scheduled for a cervical biopsy in 2 weeks.  My family and church are not happy with me living with bf and are going to be completely freaked out as well.  Sigh.  I want to be happy but am quite a bit stressed out at the moment, lol.  On top of that, I have been planning to move to Florida in May but now am going to up that to Thanksgiving or Christmas so have moving in the next few months on my plate!  Anyway, I am going to keep everything under wraps as long as possible.  Can't keep it from bf for long though - I will start throwing up in the next two weeks if the baby is viable and then he will put all the symptoms I am having together - crying, irritable, hungry, gained a few pounds, sleeping ALL the time.  I should have realized what was going on earlier and if he had ever been around a pregnant woman before, he would have put it together by now! :-P
 

 

 

Naomi, that sounds like a lot!  Hope you are doing ok.

 

 

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Originally Posted by Cali2SC View Post

Heehee!  Love this!

 

I posted this in the chat thread but at 4 weeks and 6 days, I've already told

 

  • DP
  • my dental hygienist and dentist
  • my sister
  • and my midwife

 

in that order.  We are going to a big party this weekend and I will have to fake drink if I do not want to be outed.  Last time, our friends guessed when I turned down wine at a party.  I hate to waste good wine.  I guess my DP will have to drink for two!  This will take some teamwork.  orngtongue.gif

 

LOL, I love that!  Take one for the team, Cali2SC's DP!

 

I told DP the minute I found out, and the next day, I called up my two good friends (who were actually at my house when I found out) and told them.  Other than that, we haven't told anyone.  I don't know what we are waiting for.... we will probably tell DP's parents soon; I know they will be so thrilled.  DD has been the only grandbaby so far. 

 

I think I mentioned in my intro post that we won't be telling my parents.  I assume that they will find out when DP's parents do because DPs dad is facebook friends with my mom.  Yay, technology.  If I felt like it was appropriate for me to ask DP's dad not to share that with my mom, I would, but I don't feel comfortable doing that.  I don't like making other people be in charge of my "secrets." 

post #28 of 35

I have told the people who I would want to be there for me should this pregnancy not go to term for some reason.

My parents, SIL 1  and 2, My Brother, My grandma, MIL, my children figured it out, My 4 best friends, My birth photographer (who is a close friend), My Midwife, The girls told their teachers today LOL OOPS.... I will wait to announce on FB until my first appt I think in September. I will be 8 weeks and since I am not having an early U/S and we can usually hear heartbeats early, we will try then and if we pick it up on the doppler I will announce. I show quickly and this is our 3rd. Not going to be a secret much longer...

post #29 of 35

I told my younger brother-in-law, because he helped me arrange the way I told DH (set up a scavenger hunt in Minecraft). Other than that, no one else knows except for the doula I had with my first (wanted to tell her in case we need her services). I'll e-mail my sister really soon, but ask her to keep it secret. She's had some miscarriages and infertility issues, and though she says she's OK with it now, I don't want to blindside her with the news when we show up for our visit in a few months. I want to give her the chance to react in private, just in case it ends up bothering her after all. But I'll tell the rest of my family in person (planning on putting DD in a "Big Sis" shirt and see how quickly people notice). 2whistle.gif

 

After that I'll announce it on Facebook and my blog. I'll also put in in our Christmas newsletter blog, for anyone who may have missed the news.

 

That's the plan for now.

post #30 of 35

I put DD in a 'Big Sister' shirt last weekend when we went to the in-laws and my MIL didn't notice it on her own. I had to point it out LOL. And then DD pointed it out to my FIL when he returned from work. Doh.. But before that we had skyped with my parents and brother and even though the shirt was mirrored when I held it up they understood right away. 

 

Beyond that we now have a handful of friends that know but the real news won't spill until probably at least the beginning of October. 

post #31 of 35

Just found out this morning and DH, the DDC crew from Spring 2011, and our 2 midwives know. I will have a hard time not telling at work, as I am super close with several of my coworkers.

post #32 of 35

Still waiting to tell... but I have to meet up with our midwife today and will have all three kids with me... I am in between telling a friend and having the kids hang with her for a bit or chancing it and hope they don't ask a direct question about the visit. Having miscarried recently I might be able to get away with making it seem like its just a routine check in. 

 

I kinda hate keeping it secret but I am really not ready to tell people yet. and the moment the kids know EVERYONE will know!!! :)

 

got to love their enthusiasm!

post #33 of 35

bought cards for grandparents day and going to have dd sign them and add "and some one new at the end of April 2013!"  Dropping them in the mail today, so they arrive for Grandparent's Day this weekend.  Looking forward to our parents knowing, and then I'm sure the news will spread!  Honestly it will just be nice not to have to change into the one shirt that hides my bloated belly every time I go to drop off or pick up my DD at my MIL's! (which is almost daily as they live next door to us.) whistling.gif

post #34 of 35

No one knows except me and DH. Well my MIL knows, but thats because she has crazy intuition and just flat out guessed over the weekend. We still denied it though. But she did that with my 2nd pregnancy too.  Well, a few internet friends know on FB, but its a closed group so it won't spread.  I plan on telling my best friend this weekend as we're going out for my bday. 

 

We have not told our kids yet because as soon as we do they will not keep their mouths shut and we do not want anyone else to know until we know what exactly we are doing. See we live with my father right now, and I want to move out before baby comes but DH doesn't think we'll be able to.  Plus, my sister is TTC right now and last time it took her over a year and fertility drugs and artificial insemination to get pregnant so I don't want to rain on her parade.  And I've only been at my work for 4 mths and don't plan on returning once the baby is born so I don't want them to know yet either.

 

We may tell my in-laws at the end of the mth at my MIL's bday party, but won't tell my side until at least Oct. - if I can hide it that long.

post #35 of 35
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Originally Posted by Cali2SC View Post

bought cards for grandparents day and going to have dd sign them and add "and some one new at the end of April 2013!"  Dropping them in the mail today, so they arrive for Grandparent's Day this weekend.  

Grandparents Day! yes- we may take advantage of this too.  I'm nervous about telling my kids though.. once ds1 knows, the whole world will know- his bus driver, the checkout clerk at Target, any random person who passes him by...  and I'm just not ready to deal with the constant small-talk conversations about being pregnant. 

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