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"Mom, are you retired too?"

post #1 of 4
Thread Starter 

So my son asked me the other day if I was retired too (my parents retired at the beginning of the year). I have to admit I'm not quite sure how to respond to this.

 

I did go back to work when he was about a year old but then quit last spring, a bit before he turned 3, to stay home with him. I tell him he is my job now, but obviously there's still some confusion.

 

Have your kids ever asked you?

post #2 of 4

My kids have kind of asked me. I think it confuses them that I stay at home while daddy goes to work but my oldest is starting to understand a little more. I try and explain that if I were to go to work then it would mean I wouldn't see them as often. I tell her that I may go back and do something one day and I'm more on a break than retired.

 

Although my husband on the other hand often says that I'm in "early retirement"... And sometimes I'm tempted to tell people that when they ask what my job is... 

post #3 of 4
Thread Starter 

Thanks for your input. That's a good way to phrase it. I'm mostly concerned about how to phrase my explaination so that he doesn't get the impression that mothers who either have to or choose to go back to work love their children less. He knows if I went back to work, he would go back to the dayhome he was in before. It's as much for myself as for him that I've chosen to stay home for the time being.

post #4 of 4

Understood. I usually give my kids ALL of the options in a positive light. 

 

ie Some mom's work and some stay at home, some dad's work and some stay at home and sometimes both parents work the same hours meaning sometimes you go to care/babysitter/grandma's/etc, and sometimes both parents work but on different schedules. Right now dad and I have chosen for me to stay at home with you because that's what works best for our family. We may decide differently in the future or I may decide not to go back to work again. 

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