MW-- Did you watch the concert series from her home? Takes my breath away everytime!! It's been a long time since I've been excited about an artist or band, but she does it for me!
Originally Posted by Baby_Cakes
We finally had a decent night again! Only 3 wake ups at 1, 4 and 6, then up for the day at 730. I love when the coffee is already brewed, b/c w/o opening my eyes, I know it's time to get up for the day when I smell it. Mmm. There just isn't anything like the smell of fresh brewed coffee in the am.
Maybe you guys can help me think out of the box. I'm having trouble figuring this out. When I start taking doula clients, who am I going to get to watch the kids if DH is out of town? For the time being, my MIL might be able to, but I'm not sure if she would be able to during the day, especially if she is working. Do doulas typically hire mother's helpers or babysitters or something?
I posted on FB that I was compiling a list of people who could help out, days, nights, weekends, etc. I actually got a pretty good response! From stories and people I've talked to, it seems like family is the easiest (especially if you have to call them at say 3am), and neighbors near by can also be priceless. I'm really lucky right now because my in laws (and DH's youngest sister) live 2 blocks away, and his mom doesn't work, just does a ton of running around etc for his other siblings and their kids. And then both of his sisters are SAHMs and live less than 15 minutes away. My cousin is also a SAHM and lives about 8 minutes from one of the hospitals here that delivers.
Originally Posted by MarineWife
We got better sleep last night, too. I was able to sleep until around 7:30, which was nice after waking earlier for the past few days. Have you all noticed that our babies seem to go through the same things at the same time? I swear, we all seem to have sleep troubles at the same time. Maybe it's something in the atmosphere.
for having some time with the hubby. Sean and I have been getting along better. I got a to-do list pad for the fridge the other day. It has a box for today, tomorrow, and 2 or 3 other times. In each box I put, "Kiss your wife" with a box next to it. hehe It's kind of a joke here because dh likes to make lists and put a box next to each thing so he can check it off as he gets it done. This came up in that workshop we went to. Apparently, everyone in his personality group does that sort of thing. It was pretty funny listening to them all agree that they make lists like that. So, I told him I had a list of things for him to do on the fridge. He got a kick out of it. I think he thought it was going to be work type stuff so was very pleased when he saw it.
I've been making more of an effort to do little things like that for and with him. It has been helping him relax and soften, I think.
I was thinking the same thing about sleep and milestones! They all seem to hit them at the same time- they may be different milestones (ie ones working on walking, one on crawling, one on standing, etc), but they seem to hit ones at the same time!
That's good about you and Sean. It's funny how the little things can mean SO much!
Originally Posted by akind1
I have only known one doula well, and what she does is a couple meetings before the baby, to talk about the birth plan, what role we want her to have in the delivery room (hands on, hands off, running interference with hospital staff, etc) expectations, that sort of thing. She also likes to go to a prenatal visit with you, if you are comfortable with that, so she can meet at least one of your attendants (dr or midwife) and kind of get a feel for what they expect her role to be too. Then of course, you call her when you think you might be in labor, and she'll come labor with you at home, if you like, or meet you at the hospital (or birthing center, whatever). She stays until the baby is born, however long it takes, plus a couple hours after.
so, really, it is a long chunk of time she commits herself to. Mine also offers birth photography services and placenta encapsulation.
As for what she does in the delivery room, well, whatever you want, short of checking your cervix or offering you meds, etc - she's not a nurse or midwife. Mine helped by suggesting different positions, talking me through things, reminding me how and when to breathe, vocalize, etc. Worked with the nurse to make sure we went by my birth plan. offers massage, and other pain relief tools. Especially in a hospital setting with shift changes, it is so nice to have one person who stays with you for the duration. She also helped make the transition from the labor to post partum room go smoothly. I had passed out in the bathroom following delivery, and she made sure everything came with us, because I was not in a position to do so.
Needless to say, I *heart* my doula - doulas are awesome!
<3 Love the doula love! lol
I've been lucky, I haven't had any long births. My shortest last from about 430am until 1030am, and my longest was from about 3am until 11pm at night. You hear the horror stories of 36-48 hour labors. Makes me nervous!
Originally Posted by MarineWife
Thanks for giving me your EDD. I meant to ask you but forgot.
I wish I had a doula for Ethan's hospital birth. My doula for Kellen's homebirth ended just taking photos and video. My midwife and her assistant were all I needed at home. Of course, everyone is different. I'm sure there are women who want a doula for homebirth.
I put Dylan on my back with the mei tai. It was easy to get him on there but uncomfortable. My shoulders and back hurt after just a few minutes. What am I doing wrong?
I don't know what I would have done withoout my doula in the hospital. As far as support and actual relaxation/pain help, I wouldn't say she did a ton, but just -having- her there, knowing she was on my side and rooting for me, meant so much more than I thought it could. Just the little whispers asking me questions when the nurse didn't care, that type of thing.
With the mei tai, I find I get sore if she isn't tied really tight. She really needs to be snugged up to my back really well for it to feel comfy. Make sure the waist band is snug too, so it's taking some weight, instead of it all on your shoulders.
Ok, so we had a good, no... great night last night! It took about 45 minutes to get her down, but was kind of my fault because I waited too long. She fell asleep shortly after 9pm. She woke and fussed for a minute at about 1030, but I was able to rub her back and she settled right away, didn't even have to pick her up. And then she slept until just after 3am! That's 6 hours! Then up again at about 540am, so a little over two hours. And then she was up again at 630 and came into bed with us. It was soooo nice!!
Except... I think she slept so well because she has a fever :/ When I was snuggling her at 540, I noticed she was quite warm, so we took her blanket off. Took her temp at 8 and it was 101.6. Not worrying yet, but definitely the warmest I've ever felt her!! So far she's just whiny and clingy, no other sick symptoms. I'm getting DH to pick up an ear thermometer while he's out today though, because apparently she's getting too mobile for the underarm one! lol It was so hard to get the reading.
We're supposed to be heading out to the lake today, and I hope this doesn't siderail it. We were going to go out today, and then DH will come back Thursday evening, while Ten and I stay out there. Then Friday after work, he'll come back out. Friday afternoon/evening my family is doing my birthday 'gathering' out there, and hopefully getting in a boat ride and such. It will be fun-- and weird! I've only been alonew ith Ten once overnight!