Sleep is such a precious commodity! I hope everyone is getting some. (I didn't so much last night. Norah had a nurse-a-thon)
Re: DTD - idk about you all, but for me, the longer we go without, the easier it is to continue to go without. It's like, it's been X # of days, weeks, months, what's one more? and we get trapped in that cycle until one of us finally makes a move. And the longer we go without, the crappier our relationship otherwise is - we don't seem to communicate well, get irritated at eachother easily, and spend too much time placing blame instead of finding solutions. When we both make an effort to make DTD a priority, it's amazing the difference. I know it's just sex, but for example, DH has really stepped up doing the dishes and housework lately. He takes time to do those non-sexual touches and things that make me more eager, or at least willing, to forgo a little more sleep to DTD. It's a circular sort of issue. And, FTR, I am sure he wouldn't mind being woken up for sex. Sometimes for me, that helps - I get a little doze in before, so I have some energy for DTD.
Re: the card . . . IDK - while it might not have been best way to say it, he tried. Men and marines in general (IME) suck at that sort of thing. And he probably would be less grumpy. I get that you want him to make an effort, but by not making an effort either, I am not really sure what point that proves, other than to keep you stuck in the same rut. (off my soapbox now)
two more days left in the first trimester. By all accounts start of week 13 means I am officially in the second trimester! Woot! Can't wait to feel this baby moving!
So . . . we decided we need a bigger car, and really the best thing is a minivan. We started at this dealership we otherwise don't like, because they had some cars on the lot that we did like. Salesman was super nice, and we got a long well. It was too late to run our numbers and see what kind of deal we could get, so we came back the next evening (this was on an 08 grand caravan, fully loaded for around 16K), and the finance guy was the rudest guy I have met. He shouldn't work with people. I have a screaming baby in my arms, and he has the gall to try to play games. brings out ridiculously high numbers (a $350+ monthly payment on a 10K car loan, and low offer on my trade, high interest, just awful) and then we tell him, absolutely not, and he's like well, your car has a bad car fax. Well, turns out it's bad bc there is an error on it, and getting that fixed is next to impossible, so any dealer isn't going to offer as much for it as it's actually worth. But still. Just not a good guy to work with.
MIL had DS overnight, so we went shopping with just Norah on Saturday, at a Toyota dealership that DH and his mom had worked with before, ended up with the same salesman they had, and found a 06 Odessy with leather interior and DVD player (the 2 highest things on our wish list) well within our budget at just under 11K. Still had to accept a lower offer on our trade, but carfax is stupid. The business manager said they had a guy come in whose trade had a great carfax, and the guy was honest, said he'd been in 3 accidents with the car, but none of them showed on the carfax. So it goes both ways. We were in and out, with our new-to-us car keys in under 2 hours. Awesome experience, and we love the minivan.
JJ: hooray on Ten's teeth! How many total does she have now? Norah is stalled at 1.
Fall is so busy, but I love it!