Originally Posted by onetwoten
...we're just working really hard at helping her see that she can fall asleep in her bed without a ton of help. We're doing our bed routine, and then I nurse her, cuddle her for a few minutes until she's super relaxed, and then going into the crib for backrubs etc. Once she gets to sleeping 3ish hour stretches, I'm ok with starting to rock her to sleep again, and see if that works. It's not that I -don't- want to rock her to sleep, you know? Just that I want her to be able to go to sleep in other ways and help herself back to sleep. For all of this to stop being a fight at every turn. To get more than an hour of sleep at a time. Slow steps, but I think we're getting there, and without an hour of shrieking, which is nice. I feel like I'm finding a bit of middle ground.
UGH. I read your post in the middle of the night last night, and man, do I ever hear you. I could have WRITTEN it when Nora was a baby.
I also did the same thing, I really did. I put her in the crib and just said, "I can't DO it anymore! Cry then!" and left her for a little while. Her crying escalated, I was crying, mad, angry, TIRED, and all I could think was "this is stupid! Why am I fighting with her on this?!?" I got it out of my system though, and then we went back to square one, and somehow i had renewed patience/strength to try something different.
What makes me ... idk...want to offer this tiny little shred of advice (which you can take with a grain of salt) is that she's young. Very young. Still such a baby. She WILL, as she gets older, learn on her own to fall asleep without much help. It will happen!! She is a super high needs baby, one that seems to need a lot of touch, attention, and help getting her needs met. She might continue to struggle with this sleep thing for a while. Acceptance is going to be your saving grace. Working with her, working with your needs, with your DH's needs -- of course this all matters -- and I know you've had good nights thrown in that give you guys such hope! But remember that you can only encourage her to sleep, and there is no magic combination of anything that is going to work that you need to figure out. You aren't doing anything wrong. You are doing everything RIGHT by responding to her needs.
I say that b/c I had so many doubts with my 1st high needs non sleeping ever baby. Everyone said CIO. I knew it wasn't an option, but I still felt guilty and somehow wrong (b/c the books and the experts said I was doing her a disservice by not "allowing her the sleep she needs").
Anyhow all this is just a huge hug and a perspective from someone who has gone thru this and totally survived. You'll get thru it. She will learn! It may take awhile but it will happen. I hope you can find middle ground and a way to juggle her non sleep with your sleep needs! ((hugs))
YIKES! That much ewcm would make me annoyed. I hate it and how uncomfortable it is to begin with!!
We dtd w/o protection the other day. Eeek! I'm not nervous, b/c it was 1 day after AF and i was still dry. But still! EEk!
Originally Posted by onetwoten
The only time I get a backrub is if I've pretty much committed to sex already. Kinda sucks! Boys forget that mostly our bodies need to be primed really really well before jumping in- and a lot of this is in non-sexual things!
Originally Posted by akind1
It seems as if they keep moving the 2nd trimester start date. It used to be 12 weeks, then 13 weeks, now it appears that now my 13th week is the last week of the first trimester, and 14 is the start of the second. Whatever. I am ready for that energy burst! (never happened with the other 2, but maybe I will get lucky this time!)
I can't believe you're so close to the 2nd tri!!! Man it goes fast when it's someone else, lol!
I hope you get that energy burst. I think it's amazing what our bodies can do when they need to!
AFM - we survived the hellish stomach virus (HELL. HELL. HELL) but now nora seems to have the flu. She stuck on the couch. Finn seems unscathed so far so I hope he continues to be super baby and fight all these germs! Go breastmilk!! Ha!
Next week Nora starts full day school 3 days a week. I'm super super bummed our last week of summer has been spent sick!!! I had some loose plans to try to get out and about before the real crunch of school begins, but that won't happen and now I'm like, ugh. School! I'm excited for her though and just trying to not put my feelings on her or out in the universe b/c I realize they are selfish feelings. I just wanted one more week with my kid.
I'm getting so excited about our trip! I was looking at the websites and I just can't wait.
I'm thinking either sunday or Monday chris and I will go to busch. Sat we'll go to CW together b/c I know Lauri found some cool things we should all do. Whichever day we don't go to busch we'll do jamestown. I can't wait for Nora to see the ships!
What time can we check in on Friday? What time are y'all thinking you'll arrive? Do we need to know anything for check in? MW - your $$ is en route. DH had to put more money in paypal. Sorry Im not on the ball with it!