I'm writing in this forum because it seems like most of the women who respond are level-headed - and give great advice! I, however, am not a mother.
BUT I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 5 years, since the summer after highschool. He is the perfect boyfriend. He treats me like I am a goddess - flowers every few weeks, gifts, and wants nothing more than to be with me all the time. He makes great money, has an MBA, and comes from a wonderful, well-connected family. Plus, he's practically naming our unborn children... though after 5 years I don't blame him!
Problem is I have a big crush on a co-worker. Actually, he works FOR me.
The object of my affection is nowhere near my usual physical type, but still attractive. He is 30 years old and spent years travelling Europe trying to grow his band. That's why he's older but works under me. He is pretty broke and has a low income earning potential. He broke up with his girlfriend of 3 years recently. More importantly, I can't even think around him. Actually, I can't think when he's not around either. Worst of all, I'm not sure if he's interested or if he is just being nice because, well, I'm his boss.
My relationship with my boyfriend seems forced all of a sudden. It seems false. Like I'm in it for all the wrong reasons. Even when I'm with him I am quietly comparing him to the object of my lustful affection. I am elated every time I get a text message from the crush, and feel like I'm putting on a mask around my bf.
What should I do? Am I failing to recognize a perfect relationship? Should I stay away and be with my main man, or am I too young to quit the dating scene? I'm afraid I'll never find another guy like my boyfriend, but I am not ready to be married yet.... Help!