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Poll Results: Would you let your 11 year old go live overseas with an aunt for a month?

 
  • 79% (27)
    Yes
  • 20% (7)
    No
34 Total Votes  
post #21 of 23

Well I also have an 11 year old so I feel like I can relate on that level. I'm sure there is a way to view what you originally wrote but I cant figure out how to  see it while writing this at the same time. So I think the following were your areas of concern. 

Sleep-

Food-

School-

Flying-

Boy we have had our issues w/the first two.  I am wondering if doing a chart listing the positive and negative for going would help put this decision in black and white. I'm sure that you will have your daughters best interest at heart. Trust yourself that you will make the best choice for her and your family. Exciting times.

post #22 of 23

I went away for three months to stay with a family in Australia when I was seventeen.  It was one of the most difficult experiences in my life.  The host family was wonderfully kind - good parents, loving, took care of me, etc.  But I was sooooo homesick, I just counted down the days the whole time.  All I wanted was to see my parents again.

 

I think that eleven is way too young to be away from home for a whole month.  Even with a family member.  Especially if she has said that she doesn't want to go for that long.  If you could put it off until she's fifteen, why not make it easier on her?  I bet she would have much more fun when she's a little older.

post #23 of 23

I think it all depends on the kid. In general, I think a hypothetical 11 yr old going to spend a month with a hypothetical aunt in Italy is on the surface a cool idea, but it really depends on the individuals involved. 

 

For my dd1, who is 11, no freaking way! She already has anxiety issues, has done very little flying and certainly none by herself, and just would not be ready for that. However, for my dd2, who is 8 now, in 3 years, I could maybe see that if it was MY sister, who she does have a pretty good relationship with, that she was going to visit. Dh's sister they don't know as well and even if she were hypothetically in Italy, I don't think I would want to do that knowing her as I do. 

 

I agree that this could be an awesome trip when she is 14 too. I wouldn't push her at all. If she wants to do it and you're confident in your SIL's abilities then I would let her try it. 

 

I have some regrets that I didn't do any study abroad programs, etc.

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