It's easier for me now as an older person to look back and see the process. I thought as a younger person that as soon as I thought of something, I should be able to implement it. Now I know that change doesn't happen that way. We have to think about making a change for a while, make the change and then it takes time to implement the change. They say that the best indicator of being able to change is the ability to start over. Think of the person who quits smoking. If they give up when they mess up and have a cigarette they will just go back to smoking again and feel like a failure. But, the key is to let go of the self blame and just get back focused on the goal, to start over. We have to do that with our kids all the time.
For me, learning gentle discipline was/is like learning a new language. I had reminders on my refrigerator, read a bunch of books, had the privilege of being able to interview great thinkers. It really helped to immerse myself in the new way of thinking about children so I could have a model to follow.
Here are some books that I found helpful when I was a young parent:
What books have you all found helpful to learn new ways of gentle discipline?