This is very well put! I have similar feelings toward my various parents. It is not how I want my own children to feel.
I really don't think there is any situation that calls for spanking. For me or for anyone else. It feels like a human rights issue. I would stand up for anyone being bullied by someone bigger and stronger. We are everything to our children. They are helpless and vulnerable--please don't hit them. There is no reason. There are so many better tools at our disposal. Behavior modification is a dated concept, anyway, and no one wants to live in a punitive environment.
I haven't read yet one good reason to ever hit a child, which is, I think, because THERE ISN'T ONE. Especially not if you call yourself an attachment parent.
Yurika47, you probably won't find a lot of support for spanking here. Traditionally, Mothering speaks out against things like crying it out and physical punishment.
mleawicks, why hit a child that's already scared after doing something unsafe?
that would be the problem, their not scared and in that situation I want them to understand the danger. they can turn tail and run so fast for Rd or other danger and not be able to catch them. Had a freind who just told her son not to go to Rd. used other methoids. They are both died because the kid did not understand how unsafe it is. He would be an adult today. his mom ran to road to catch him. they were hit by a trackor trailer.
I was spanked as a kid. I did me no harm. I new my mom loved me from the other things we did. I think it has to do with the whole of how you parent. I have a friend from high school who was like many of you. spanked, yelled at but no love shown. She is very bitter. As I said depends on the whole of how you parent. I have 5 sibs and they all say like me. Spanking never hurt me. by the why my mom in my adult years till she passed was my best freind. I miss her much and she is the one that spanked me.