Bajingo Juice in August brings on the BFP's - TTC #1 in our 30s - August 2012 - Page 2

[iixivboots]

Hi everyone, just stopping in to report Lyle George was born on 8/3. :)

[dakipode]

Congratulations! Much happiness to you and your new family!

[lilacvioletiris]

boots, Lyle is so cute.  I love your new avatar! 

Man, I think the Bajingo thread is due for a BFP some time soon.  I don't think we have had one in a couple of months.  Hopefully someone has some good news soon!

[librarygirl]

Congrats, boots!

Well, I think my cluster headache period is finally over, thank goodness! I added some vitamins and cut my artificial sweetners and that made a big difference. We all know those are evil....but I still get drawn to them from time to time. Hopefully I am done now. Now to focus on a much healthier diet and keeping blood sugar under control and losing some weight, while officially starting to TTC this month (we were NTNP since may). Unfortunately, I think my progesterone levels are too low- I've had a lot of spotting prior to AF starting and LP is 12 days long. Going to make appointments with GP (physical and diabetes control) and midwife (pap smear and making sure everything is good to start TTC) tomorrow. I'm just CD4 so it's a fresh cycle and time to get serious!

Happy BDing everyone! Bring on the BFPs!

[TeamViddy]

Good luck Librarygirl! When I got pregnant it was after 8 months of NTNP and it was the first month of actually TTC. It might make a big difference.
 

[TeamViddy]

Boots, how beautiful! Congratulations.
 

[Lee'sGirl]

Lilac -  That is how I do mine - grind it up fresh in a coffee grinder I have JUST for flax.  I am supposed to take 3 tbsp a day, so I usually mix them into oatmeal or yogurt like I said - or if I have fruit or something for breakfast, I will sprinkle it on a salad for lunch or dinner. 

[Lee'sGirl]

Congratulations Boots! He is sure a cutie!

[librarygirl]

Okay, I made my doctor's appointments and DH and I are back on track with healthy eating. We had a serious talk last night- I reminded him that he told me August for actively trying and asked if he was still good with that. He said YES! I pointed out that we would need to DTD a little more than we have been (7 weeks of cluster headaches = very very very little sex) and of course he says, "oh, well, I'm not on board with that..." . We talked timing and he looked at my chart. Definitely in the same mindset right now, which is just so exciting. Then he tried to read 50 Shades out loud to me, which made me fall asleep (no offense to those who like it but I think it's terrible. DH thinks it's terrible, too, but he does fantastically funny dramatic readings of really bad books).

Hope everyone else is well! Happy BD'ing. Let's get those BFPs!

[dakipode]

Originally Posted by librarygirl 

Okay, I made my doctor's appointments and DH and I are back on track with healthy eating. We had a serious talk last night- I reminded him that he told me August for actively trying and asked if he was still good with that. He said YES! I pointed out that we would need to DTD a little more than we have been (7 weeks of cluster headaches = very very very little sex) and of course he says, "oh, well, I'm not on board with that..." . We talked timing and he looked at my chart. Definitely in the same mindset right now, which is just so exciting. Then he tried to read 50 Shades out loud to me, which made me fall asleep (no offense to those who like it but I think it's terrible. DH thinks it's terrible, too, but he does fantastically funny dramatic readings of really bad books).

  Glad to hear you're having fun with it. I actually enjoyed the books and have been sucked into romance novels since. I call them brain candy, just something light and entertaining to read before falling asleep.

Yay for being on the same page and getting serious about BD'ing. Have you gotten the cluster headaches under control?

AFM: I'm running into some temping/test strip discrepancies, need to see if it keeps up. All my temps are pointing towards O in the next few days but the strips have been blank (control line shows up nice and dark). Usually I get a gradually darkening line but so far nothing... A bit confused but glad I've been temping so I can recognize the signs without having to rely on the strips. CM is hard to tell for me so no good info there.

[dakipode]

Just need to state this somewhere: my client with 8 kids, yes eight, is pregnant again... She announced it to me today, said she was completely surprised because she thought she was entering early menopause... I, of course, congratulated her.

I'm happy for her, she welcomes having another one. I'm sad that I haven't conceived yet, though O should be here any day now, so I haven't missed my chance this month yet. Just not having a lot of faith this month, maybe the diagnosis did affect me more than I'd like to admit.

Anyway, just needed to acknowledge how I feel.

[lilacvioletiris]

Sorry, Dakipode, to hear of the emotional upheavel for you.  It is hard to hear that others have "lapped us" by having a pregnancy before we even get a change for our first.  I am the oldest of 7 kids and figured that once I was married, getting pregnant would be do big deal so I feel for you as I see others have baby after baby while I still wait.

AFM, cross posted from IVF thread, "Well, yesterday wasn't the best collection day for us.  We only had 3 motile, 2 "shaking" and 3 non-motile sperm that they were able to freeze for our future IVF attempt.  The nurse at the clinic said to make a consultation appointment with the doctor to see if we need more collections or not.  I was crying because it just seems like we keep going back again and again to drop of collections but with no "goal" of how many sperm they want frozen.  Between that and the money issues where we keep waiting for a reimbursement that will pay for our IVF with ICSI, but no reimbursement being in the check every other week.  It is just sucking the energy from me not knowing when we will be able to move forward with IVF with ICSI.  I am glad DH has some sperm to use with our procedure, but not knowing what "quantity" is desired by the doctor makes it feel like one step forward, 2 steps back."

[Lee'sGirl]

Dakipode & Lilac - so sorry to hear about the disappointments & emotional roller-coasters.  It's so frustrating sometimes when we want something SO BAD that we think should just be SO SIMPLE (at least that's where my mind always goes) and it just isn't happening or is way more difficult than we think it has any reason to be.  I understand Dakipode's thoughts - I'm the oldest of 4 & all 3 of my younger siblings have at least one child, 2 of them have 2 already (yup, 5 nieces - all 4 years old & younger).  I am thrilled for them & adore my girlies but still, I want it to be my turn.  Lilac, I won't pretend to fully get the frustration but I can only imagine - I do know how irritating it is when the doctors don't make things very clear.  Sometimes it seems like they want us to blindly follow!

AFM - well, looks like we are moving on to next month (although I can't be sure - I don't always have a set schedule to expect O).  But, it looks like it may have come & gone.  I did get some of the most interesting advice from the Dr this week though, I asked her for advice on making TTC easier when dealing with PCOS.  Her advice was to "have lots of sex". I don't think I have ever had a Dr. actually TELL me to DTD more often.  I'm sure you can imagine how very disappointing this was for DH! I swear, he about fell over he was so shocked!  So, at least we can still have fun trying. 

[lilacvioletiris]

Lee's Girl, that is too funny about your DH's reaction to the Dr's orders for more DTD action.

AFM, feeling emotionally better after a day of reprieve from the "sperm donation" that was frozen for us.  DH is going to call the Dr. and make an appointment to get information on what needs to be done next since it is basically DH's deposits that are putting everything on hold plus the money to pay for the procedures for me.  Basically I want my DH to hear from the Dr. that either he needs to make more sperm donations to be frozen or he needs to have a testicular biopsy (which he really doesn't want to do).  I think I am going to have DH ask if there was a way to collect via some special condom so we could freeze.  Extremely low sperm count certainly doesn't help trying to get pregnant.

[dakipode]

Lilac: one of the things I found lacking at the fertility clinic is that I felt like all they were able to do was say: "Here's your diagnosis, now here are the drugs." They didn't tell me anything about what I could do on my own to improve my chances, change my diet, exercise habits (thought the Dr. said back off the intensity), supplements I could take... I guess I should've known to expect that. Overall though, I know what the plan is, i.e. the chain of events that needs to happen from here on out. I'm surprised that your Dr. hasn't given you any direction, that must be frustrating.

Lee'sGirl: well at least your Dr. is cheering you on, even if it seems like a bit of a "Duh"

AFM: on Friday, after Thursdays' news, I showed up at ballet class, I hadn't gone to the Friday class in a while, not since April or so, and one of the girls shows up with a bump! I almost left. But I stood at the barre on the other side and it was fine and later that day I had a great talk with a friend about my TTC frustrations. Now I'm getting my hopes up again for this month and at the same time glad that I have the back-up plan, i.e. the fertility clinic stuff is ready to go, if only I could get DH to go first!

[lilacvioletiris]

dakipode, well the fertility doctor had given us a plan "Get enough sperm frozen for an IVF procedure."  Problem is that there was no definition of what "enough" was or is and that has DH frustrated because he doesn't like having to produce on a schedule (i.e. drop off your specimen at 10:30 a.m. so we can freeze it before our staff meeting).  There isn't the "fun" in it that DH wants, but to me, there won't be much fun in poking myself with needles for a month to get pregnant either.  At least his part is more "natural".  Anyway, I gave DH the fertility clinics phone number so he can call and get a plan in place for what to do with going forward or at least how many sperm the Dr wants frozen so DH can feel like he is working toward a goal.

AFM, today is my first day of school teaching.  Math and careers here we come!

[lilacvioletiris]

Well, two days of school are under my belt.  Ready to get ready for the third.  Why, oh, why does O probably have to be this week when I am over tired from starting school :( Been having a little bit of EWCM, but not as much as in previous cycles.  Usually it lasts for 7 days which I think is my body behaving badly.  How is everyone else doing?

[librarygirl]

Lilac, I read somewhere that parabens can cause too much EWCM (as in too many days) and because of that, I've stopped using products with parabens. Not hard for me, really. just new soap, shampoo, and face wash and chapstick. I don't wear makeup or use much in the way of hair products. Not sure if it'll help but I figure it can't hurt!

Did your DH get an answer from the dr about a goal?

Dakipode, I, too, am finding it harder and harder to see pregnant women and it seems like everyone I know is pregnant or just had a baby, including one of my library families who just had their 7th (6 living) child. I just found out a cousin is TTC and now it feels like a race to see who will get knocked up first. She's already got one, though. Hopefully we'll both have great news at our family Christmas reunion.

So, O should coincide with DH's birthday next week so he's getting lots of birthday sex this year. :) I don't think he'll complain. 

[lilacvioletiris]

library, I have made some changes with parabens.  I wasn't a make up wearer much, but now not at all and my facial cleanser doesn't have parabens in it.  I just changed my shampoo to one that doesn't have parabens.  I think part of my long EWCM has to do with my hypothyroidism.  I am beginning to wonder if I am taking enough thyroid meds and probably should talk to my doctor again.

DH has an appointment with the RE doctor on Sept 4.  Just have to wait and see what happens then.

AFM, had a bit of weirdness today.  I guess one of my high school student's mother's saw my husband and I coming out of the infertility clinic on Friday.  This woman was talking to another lady who is friend's with the vice principal at my school.  The vice principal told me that I should be aware that the initial woman will probably tell others and I should be ready for some "rumors" to be floating around.  Ugh, high school students don't need to be asking me questions about getting pregnant.  The whole process make me cry because it is taking so much longer than I had thought it would.

[librarygirl]

Lilac, that sucks. It's none of her business. If someone asks, I'd say, "Wow, that's really rude to ask about such a personal thing." and change the subject or walk away. *hugs* I'm sorry this has been such a long, stressful, exhausting, and expensive process for you.