Lilac, I agree with librarygirl that what you do in (or out) of the bedroom is nobody's business. While staying level headed can be hard, especially when it's such an emotional roller coaster, maybe a "I'm sorry, that's a private matter." is more appropriate than pointing out someone's being rude...
Librarygirl: oh dear, I'm sorry that you're going to feel like you're in a race with your cousin. I hope you can stay at peace with yourself through your journey. (And of course I secretly hope that you'll "win" this race... )
How's everyone else? Lee'sGirl, doularebekah, TeamViddy?
AFM: nothing exciting to report. The first week of my 2WW is always easier than the second so right now I'm just sort of coasting.