DS was born a week before our state's cut off date. He's scheduled to begin K next year, and I'm on the fence about what to do.
- He has a mild neurological disorder that causes motor skill delays. He's about six months behind in gross motor (after lots of PT and OT) and will probably always need support with muscle tone and motor planning. He's almost 4 and cannot draw a single recognizable shape, not even a circle (again, after years of PT and OT). He still cannot dress or undress himself. I'm not sure how all this will translate to classroom performance; I know handwriting will be a struggle, but I'm not sure about his ability to remember and follow classroom routines, and to stay organized when he gets older. He fatigues easily; he still needs a nap and has to take breaks while playing because he gets tired.
- BUT, he seems to be really bright. He was an early talker, learned the alphabet early, can count to 20, recognizes all the letters and single digit numbers, has a fantastic memory.
- He's been tested to see if he qualified for special education preschool and scored very high on verbal ability and in the gifted range of cognitive ability. And significantly below average on gross and fine motor skills and in one other area, I cannot remember the name, it tested dressing, feeding, personal hygiene, and self help skills.
- A fair number of families in our district delay entry for kids at the cut off, so if he starts on time, there will be some kids who are over a year older than him in the same class.
- Special ed services in our district are inadequate. The teachers are great, but the district is financially strained and one area that suffers is special ed. Caseloads are high, paras are few, budgets for supplies and resources is low. We cannot move, do private school, or tuition anywhere else.
If he wasn't so close to the cut off I wouldn't think of delaying him. And if he wasn't so bright, I wouldn't think of sending him on time. I'm really stuck on what would be best for him.