I'm so frustrated right now with my Ex that he's just NOT interested or concerned in our almost 3yo's speech delay. I've gone through 5 (at least) evaluations in the past 6 months, speech therapy here at the house 2x a month. I've carried the burden of concern, fighting with pediatricians, getting referrals, etc. I realize that's my personality.... he likely wouldn't have been concerned or participant even when we were together.
BUT now I've been given some great tools to help my son with at home, and definitely the pushing from his pathologist that IT'S NECESSARY to work with him at home as well - of course!
But his father could care less.
He's not participant in anything at all except his 20hrs a week (Friday night after daycare til Saturday before nap) and the boys playing like boys on their big-wheels. Which is Fine and all that they have that time, but....
While I've given up on consistency on discipline, food, bedtimes, basically... Everything.... Working with speech seems like one of those that should be consistent on.
Am I asking too much?
He's also about to start speech therapy 2x a week which is going to conflict with my work. Of course they're going to try to work with me, but their hours are the same as mine (of course!).... and when I mentioned today that I might need help getting him to/from appointments, he just shrugged again that he doesn't have time (he doesn't work, he's just lazy) and that he really doesn't think he needs therapy anyway. His belief that he'll just grow out of it all.
I guess there's not really anything to be done but learn to deal with this frustration and document every instance that he's unwilling to help (my notebook is getting really long as this point).
I suppose I could just NOT let him see his son on the weekends if he doesn't step-up, but like every time I've considered that threat out of spite, it really only hurts our son. I mean, he loves his Dad, of course, and loves that brief time with him. I hate to take that away from a 3yr old.
... guess I'm just venting....