I wasn't saying that working negates Attachment parenting, or even that staying home allows for it (since there are plenty of stay at home moms that don't follow AP principles at all), just that at least around here, the working moms I have known (pre-kids) told me that breastfeeding, co-sleeping, bonding with baby etc. were too time-consuming and demanding to allow for the kind of working that is expected for many careers, including high tech, financial, legal, and academia. There is a real workaholic culture in these fields, at least around here (and probably elsewhere too). When I was working full time, most of the moms I knew didn't have a thing positive to say about attachment parenting, and the CIO, etc. methods were pretty common. One workplace had a lactation room, but I never saw it used. Perhaps its more a perception that attachment parenting is somehow trying to put women back in their place that makes working moms, especially feminist ones, reject it. Not that I agree with that idea but I think it is common. One of the only two moms who brought her baby to work was the wife of the founder/CEO of the company I worked for, who was the bookkeeper and didn't work the usual crazy hours that the other executives did. I also worked with another mom who mostly worked from home, bringing her baby with her, but her baby was so mellow she could just leave him in his carseat and he would sit and smile through a meeting, no problem. But otherwise, we never saw children in my work place, and moms generally kept their kids in daycare for long hours. When you work 10+ hours a day on average, it's kind of hard to take time to parent and still use online forums.
Back to the topic of why California doesn't have its own forum, I would think that no/so is a better division since the geographic difference is pretty huge, but again there really aren't that many different threads on a regular basis. But still, the way Portland/OR mamas massively outnumber Seattle/WA mamas is way more of an issue, and those two areas still manage to share a forum (though who knows whether separating them would be better or worse).
Edited by Pookietooth - 10/16/12 at 4:38pm