Hoping this doesn't sound too dramatic.. I just HAVE to get this out!
I have had a horrible day, thanks to a "friend's" facebook status about women who don't cover up while breastfeeding. The post literally said "So I am not understanding this whole breastfeeding in public thing, first of all what is so hard about throwing a thin blanket over your shoulder, what happened to modesty?" This really upset me and ruined what was otherwise a nice weekend at my in-laws with DH and DS.
This friend knows that I do not use a blanket while breastfeeding but I do not show anything either. Because I know she knows this I felt like this was a very personal attack and took it very hard.
Several other friends commented on her status in agreement with her and were talking about women NIP or mixed company w/o covering and how uncomfortable it makes them. I am pretty sure that I am the only woman that they would have seen do this, so their comments also feel personal.
I sent her a private message explaining to her how hurt it made me and also explaining why I do not cover up and letting her know that she is welcome to leave the room or look away if it makes her uncomfortable.
I got a very nasty message back about how it isn't difficult to cover up and it is impossible not to show anything while BFing. And how it is disrespectful to others.
I honestly cannot tell you how lonely I feel now. It feels like I have no one (besides DH and our immediate families) who respect me and my decisions and I have been crying all day because of it. No one wants to feel like they are alone and that is how it feels. I can't imagine that something as simple as this would alienate people, it's so stupid!
Anyway I was hoping this would be a safe place for me to vent my feelings and hopefully find some healing. If anyone can pass on some encouragement I would be incredibly grateful.