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post #21 of 24
Thread Starter 

Thanks!

 

It's been a few days so I have calmed down a little. but I have not gotten apology yet. DH has... but not me... I'm trying not to get mad about that because frankly these people are not worth it but I would like to tell them what I think of this whole mess...

 

One nice thing about this whole thing is that it has renewed my strength for nursing my son.. I was starting to to consider weaning (or trying to at least) but now the rebel in me wants to keep going... and just maybe... nurse two in public FIREdevil.gif mwahahaha

post #22 of 24

Go for it!!! Tandem in public!!!  

YAY!!!

post #23 of 24

I just wanted to add on here. I am a mom that covered up with my first and it is because I am a big wimp!!! and it sucked, my daughter hated being covered which meant I usually had to leave a room and feel isolated nursing. Plus when she was 2 and I was still nursing I was embarrassed when she even asked in front of people, obviously my problem not hers. When I see a mom who is confident enough in her motherhood to just nurse without covering her baby up I am so jealous, I wish I had done that. I think you rock and are inspiring people you don't even realize. The more mommies who nurse the easier it will be for people like me to get over my issues and join in with you. So to all you women who nurse in public without a cover I really offer a sincere thanks. I am having twins this go around and may just have to let the girls out and it will be easier to do if there are women like you beside me. Keep in mind a lot of these women who  complain may just be jealous that they lacked the confidence to do the same thing. Try to respond with warmth because they are the ones limiting their life experience either by not nursing or hiding themselves and babies behind a cloth, while you are freely loving your baby in  the best ways you know how. My nursing at home was filled with love and ease, I hope I will be able to experience in public this time around.

post #24 of 24
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ColoradoMama- I hope you can nurse your twins in public w/o covering up, it really is so much easier. I was nervous when first getting the hang of it. One thought that always helped me was in The Breastfeeding Book by Dr. Sears where he says that every time you NIP it gives other women who see you the confidence to do the same... so that's what I kept thinking whenever I would start to get nervous about it. Hopefully that helps! I am very touched to be able to help and give you the confidence to do NIP... Thanks for your encouragement as well! It means a lot!

 

Society has sexualized women and breasts so much it's sickening... Breasts were made for babies, nursing is what they are for. IMO if someone sees a flash of breast while I am latching my baby on, ad they automatically think it's sexual and dirty than that is their problem. I can't be worrying about what other people think about my parenting choices.

 

I have been around nursing w/o covering for most of my childhood. Both my mom and my aunt nursed whenever and where ever w/o covering. My parents also had a "second batch" of kids when me and my 2 younger brothers were teens so we were around it during the more formative years. My in-aws also had kids when DH was a teen so he was around it too and his mom tandem nursed a 4 yo and newborn so even tandem nursing is not so foreign to them....

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