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post #21 of 30
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Thanks everyone for the supportive comments. I am very sensitive about this pregnancy both because of my sons diagnosis and the fact that it was unplanned and I feel like people are mocking me for having kids so close. But.... I am one of those people who is sensitive to other peoples comments / looks . My husband is always laughing at me because he says I "read" too much into other peoples reactions.

I am like that too.... It's hard when you feel like people are staring or whispering when you are out and about... Some people don't even bother whispering!  I also hate when complete strangers ( I don't mind it on here, though most people are sympathetic or have totally been there!) ask if this pg was planned... Um, I'm sorry I didn't realize that was your business... hopmad.gif

 

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Originally Posted by 13pumpkins View Post

I've never understood why pregnancy and raising children make it open season on tactless comments.

 

If I was 3 (or even at my age), I would not want to talk to her either!!!!

 

A few weeks ago, a man (while he was sitting at a demonstration for kids in a kids' chair instead of giving up his seat to my children or myself) guffawed loudly about the size of my belly.  This is really common.  I wonder why my giant belly is a justification to POINT, audibly pass horrible comments, etc.  Still, I just smile and nod and remember it's awesome I am still out and about.  Besides, the real craziness on comments is going to start when the babies are all out!

That is SO awesome that you are out and about! I barely have the energy to go to the grocery store!

 

You know, the last trimester, or any time during pg is a great time to tell a woman how big she is! I just wonder why people think that is what a woman needs/wants to hear? No common sense, I guess??

post #22 of 30

Yeah, I HATE the "your so big" comments. I went through an ED phase when I was younger. Even though I am mostly recovered now, its still hard to hear comments about your size, or what you are eating ("oh... eating for two are we????"). My FIL made a comment about how much food I ordered at a restuarant when I was 4 months pregnant. I was just getting out of the "all day sickness" and vomiting stage and had lost a few pounds in the first trimester. Being happy I could finally eat again, I ordered veggie tacos with rice and beans and started with a side salad. Luckily my MIL stepped up to the plate and told him to leave me alone and commented on "whats your excuse for eating so much" because he ordered way more than I did. haha. I am one of those lucky ones who LOVE my MIL!

post #23 of 30

What a great MIL!!! I used to get comments from my MIL about always being hungry but when she realized it she apologized, we have a pretty good relationship too...

post #24 of 30
heard a good wtf comment today. a stranger in a grocery store told my friend that her 18 month old DD better start "watching her carbs"!!! seriously? just because you have a mouth doesnt mean you need to run it all the time. some things you can just think and not say..
post #25 of 30
When we did the airport tour yesterday there was a lady who asked how much longer i had. I told her "about 4 weeks" and she said "you're awfully small" (which i'm not...seriously lol...i look like i'm 9 months pregnant) and the next second a guy walks in and goes "you sure it's only one?" Ummm...

Seriously? I just laughed it off. I know what i look like. I dont think i'm too big or too small, people just need to get it out of their system or just want to make conversation. I dont know why so many feel that a pregnant woman is the perfect target for that since i'm sure so many would not say anything even remotely close to that to a non pregnant woman.
post #26 of 30

Madimamcita - that is such a WEIRD thing to say about an 18 mo! Who puts babies on a diet?! I remember when Anna Nicole Smith had her baby she told her nannies something about not giving her too much formula to help watch her figure... Way to show girls that that's all they are valued for!

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Originally Posted by MissE View Post
 I dont know why so many feel that a pregnant woman is the perfect target for that since i'm sure so many would not say anything even remotely close to that to a non pregnant woman.

Exactly! SO, when a woman is pregnant her weight and size are totally acceptable conversation? So weird... Sounds like the first woman might have known how it feels to feel huge ad thought that it would be nicer to hear about you not looking 9 mo along... The guy just sounds like a guy... not a whole lot of tact lol wink1.gif It's good that you can laugh it off! My mood swings make my reaction so unpredictable...

post #27 of 30

Just the other day had a stranger come between me and the person behind the counter that was taking my lunch order to tell me quite loudly that "YOU CAN'T EAT GOAT CHEESE WHEN YOU ARE PREGNANT!"  She then went on to tell me that her sister is pregnant so she knows this. SHEESH.  I just told her that I eat it all the time and we have survived and proceeded with my sandwich order.  I feel quite lucky though.  This is the first real incident of stranger weirdness with the pregnancy.  Just otherwise random comments...

post #28 of 30

Jend, that is so completely innapropriate. How on earth have you managed the past 9 months without that stranger telling you what to eat?

post #29 of 30

Had my very own episode this evening! I was actually laughing and wasn't offended but I couldn't believe the audacity of this woman!

 

I was walking through the mall and this woman (who is not my friend but just a waitress that I see once every few months) sees me and this is how the conversation went (LOUDLY in the middle of the mall):

 

Her: Oh my god! You're HUGE!

Me: I'm not even overdue yet.

Her: WHAT?!?! OMG how many are in there?

Me: LOL Just one big baby.

Her: You are ALL BABY. Are you planning a natural delivery?

Me: Yep, a homebirth. In a pool, with a midwife.

Her: And a giant bottle of olive oil. Start slopping it on right now! 

Me: LOLing cause I have no idea what else to say.

 

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post #30 of 30
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Originally Posted by Jend1002 View Post"YOU CAN'T EAT GOAT CHEESE WHEN YOU ARE PREGNANT!"  She then went on to tell me that her sister is pregnant so she knows this.

 

Wow! lol! Mole is right, how have you managed w/o this woman or other complete strangers telling you what to do???

 

lol, MamanFrancaise, that is probably the strangest convo I have ever heard...

 

I actually had a positive experience today, I was picking up our chinese food and the lady kinda knows me because I go there a lot while I am pregnant eat.gif And she asked me when I was due and I told her and she was like "next month? oh you don't look that far along! You look great! " I thought it was nice to have someone say I looked great!

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