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Penny - I've been thinking about you a lot lately, I was seriously about to ask how everything was going. I'm so happy that they've ruled out pre-e for you, it's great!!!

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I'm with you, Penny and LeAnn, about our DDC and our DDC babies!  And Penny, yay about the no PreE! I hope you still get your birth center birth as well.

 

LakeRuby, happy for your negative GBS test, mine came back negative too and I was so relieved! Rebecca, I'm sending good thoughts your way for a negative result.  Enjoy your time off, I'm basically done with everything I need to do for work, but I still have to stay logged in today from home eyesroll.gif so I'll be looking for some garage sales to go to tomorrow...

 

Tizzy, glad you're settling in well with baby G, and have a little spot for him during chores, so cute!~  Boots, you to with the side-lying breastfeeding, good job to Lyle for getting up to it!

 

For everyone facing inductions, GOOD LUCK! I'm sending having baby vibes your way!~~~~

 

AFM, I'm loving having my sister here, so much good food!  We've been menu planning together and taking turns with some of our meals, although it has mostly been her cooking.  It is nice to finally have enough people to eat some of the food I make too, like my crock pot chicken and dumplings, which was a hit with the nieces. Then next week we are making plans to go to some parks, museums and hikes.  My BIL will fly up on Friday and then take the three biggest girls back home, and Court will stay here until Q comes.  I know she is hoping that she comes sooner, because she misses her husband and she will be missing the oldest girls, but I'm still hoping for Sept 4...

 

Also, stretchmarks....I just found my first ones at 37 weeks, and I was a bit disappointed.  I thought I had two on the side of my belly, but I can't find them now, so they were maybe just red marks, but I do have a bunch of short ones over my scar from having a hemorrhagic ovarian cyst removed when I was a teenager, it is basically in the same place as a C-section scar would be, right below my underwear line, so the good news is that it shouldn't really show for any reason. That scar tissue just wasn't elastic. When I was upset about my first stretch marks, B showed me his stretchmarks on his hips and thighs to make me feel better.  Sweet B, it is things like that that make me grateful to have him in my life.

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Yes, Penny, I was wondering how you were doing too. Such good news about the absence of pre-e! That must be a huge relief. Fingers crossed that you'll receive good news.

 

Boots, I can't even imagine how difficult this time has been for you. What an emotional roller coaster! The care you've received seems so primitive--I can't believe that medical professionals would even act that way. Sending you a lot of good thoughts as you gradually find some semblance of normal. Things have got to get better!

 

Lily and NewMumJoy--still thinking about you a lot! Every morning I wake up and hope that I'll see that you've had your baby overnight! I hope this weekend is the golden ticket for both of you! (and definitely sympathize with how frustrated you both are at this point)

 

Sorry for everyone else that I missed. It sounds like people are doing well, overall. The explosion of babies has been so exciting! I'm still OK with going another week or so, but I'm starting to feel more and more like I don't want to go much longer than that. The other night I started feeling a bit crampy, but it was gone by morning. And then last night--I don't know what was going on. But it's like I had an extended, constant Braxton Hicks that lasted a good 5 hours. My belly was so hard and tight. And it wasn't an issue of dehydration because I'd been drinking plenty of water. Plus the baby was just moving like crazy almost the whole time. It was so weird. And getting uncomfortable. I feel fine this morning again. So I don't know what that was?

post #64 of 91
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 But it's like I had an extended, constant Braxton Hicks that lasted a good 5 hours. My belly was so hard and tight. And it wasn't an issue of dehydration because I'd been drinking plenty of water. Plus the baby was just moving like crazy almost the whole time. It was so weird. And getting uncomfortable. I feel fine this morning again. So I don't know what that was?

I've had something similar to this. It happened last Friday and last night. I was having a lot of pressure/cervix pain and the baby was moving like crazy - but it only lasted 2 hours for me. I feel like baby is trying to engage or something? Either way, it's a super weird sensation and not one that I've ever felt in my previous pregnancy.

post #65 of 91
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Also, stretchmarks....I just found my first ones at 37 weeks, and I was a bit disappointed.  I thought I had two on the side of my belly, but I can't find them now, so they were maybe just red marks, but I do have a bunch of short ones over my scar from having a hemorrhagic ovarian cyst removed when I was a teenager, it is basically in the same place as a C-section scar would be, right below my underwear line, so the good news is that it shouldn't really show for any reason. That scar tissue just wasn't elastic. When I was upset about my first stretch marks, B showed me his stretchmarks on his hips and thighs to make me feel better.  Sweet B, it is things like that that make me grateful to have him in my life.

 

That's so sweet!  My husband has stretchmarks too, which he always reminds me about whenever I start freaking out.

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Lily, did you like the Ina May book? I really think I need to do some more reading. I have the LLL book but for some reason it just doesn't jive with me, although it's good reference. I am thinking about you, mama. I know this is rough, but I was SO impressed that you posted about your EDD workout. I hope things start happening soon, we all can't wait to meet the little one of such a strong mama.

 

NewMumJoy, you are also in my thoughts. I am so pissed off for you about the induction postponement, I have enough rage at hospital policies and practices to go around. I hope it goes smoothly and you still have a great birth. Even with pitocin I still feel pretty positive about the birth that I had, so don't let the induction thing bum you out. Hugs!

 

Thanks for the feedback about breastfeeding positions, I have just not been feeling up to all the sitting positions. We have had a few tense moments as my boobs just seem too big to manage, but overall he hasn't suffocated yet. Uhm, yeah, a nurse told me I was going to suffocate my son right after I gave birth because of how big my boobs are. I am trying to not continue to bitch about the medical professionals that I encountered, but it's hard.
I am confused about how and when we'll get this guy back EBF. They are wanting us to be feeding him 60 ccs every 2 hours, and while I can sometimes pump almost that, I have also been nursing him so we don't really know how much he's getting. His level of billirubin did go up a bit but not far out of normal. I have a hospital grade pump for now and I was trying to stay ahead of feeding schedule but it's almost impossible without doing full formula feeds.

We have a pediatrician appointment Monday. I still haven't met him. Hopefully I will like him and he'll have some suggestions about how and when we can get off the formula, and Lyle's levels will be totally normal.

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Boots, I love Ina May, mostly because she's very commonsensical about a lot of this stuff.  The first few chapters overlap with her childbirth book because interventions affect breastfeeding and so on, but she also talks about nipple shields and pumping and how to manage all that without any kind of judgment.  Most importantly, she talks about trusting mama's instincts.  The most natural position (meaning the one most women choose if they're not told otherwise), for example, is actually baby on top with mom semi-reclined, which a lot of lactation consultants don't like.  Her point is that the best position for nursing is the one that works for you.  So don't let people get all up in your grill.  I'm so sorry the medical establishment has been such a load of jack****s.  Can you just try nursing him exclusively on demand for 12 hours or so and see what happens?  I know it's scary, but it seems like forcing you to measure makes it really hard to EBF and the harder it is the more problems you might have with supply.  I've known so many people scared into supplementing with formula because they were supposed to be measuring how much baby got and when.  It just seems counter-productive.  Best of luck, mama!  Hopefully your pediatrician is awesome and you can get away from some of these interventions and back to just loving your little man.

 

In other news, my wonderful DH intervened on my behalf with my crazy family and now it looks like at least part of my family will be here for the birth, whenever that happens.  I'm trying to just relax now and take things easy without getting caught up in expecting things to happen.  My doctor says that if we get to 42 weeks she'll discuss the risks with me and then let me make my own decision about whether to wait it out until 43 weeks (with monitoring, of course).  So it's nice to know that an induction isn't imminent, but I'm not expecting to go past 42 weeks anyway.  I'm glad to know that I have control over that if I do though.

post #68 of 91
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I am confused about how and when we'll get this guy back EBF. They are wanting us to be feeding him 60 ccs every 2 hours, and while I can sometimes pump almost that, I have also been nursing him so we don't really know how much he's getting. His level of billirubin did go up a bit but not far out of normal. I have a hospital grade pump for now and I was trying to stay ahead of feeding schedule but it's almost impossible without doing full formula feeds.

We have a pediatrician appointment Monday. I still haven't met him. Hopefully I will like him and he'll have some suggestions about how and when we can get off the formula, and Lyle's levels will be totally normal.

 

Some women respond really well to pumps - I did last time, I was able to pump at least 6-7 oz from each breast at least twice a day.   MANY women are not so fortunate and their breasts just don't produce the same amount for a pump as they do for a live baby.  I have several friends who were able to EBF but could only get an ounce or so from each breast every time they pumped.  

 

I would be concerned about the bili levels, and I definitely don't want to minimize that, but if I were you, I would do my very best to just shut everyone out and stop listening to anyone but your body and your baby. I would nurse in the most comfortable position for me (I too have pretty large breasts, and for the first two months semi reclined with baby in football position worked well for me) and I would NOT pump at all.  I would just offer the breast every hour.  Seriously, every hour, or when baby demands, whichever comes first. 

 

As an alternative, could you find a good lactation consultant who can come to your home? When I ran into BF issues with my first, that put us on track and gave me the confidence I needed to just listen to my body.  I was concerned about how much DD was getting, so she weighed her before and after the feeding to see exactly how much she got - at around 6 days, she got 3oz which was FANTASTIC for her and for me.  If you could get a feel for how much baby gets in one feeding you wouldn't need to stress about measuring so much ykwim?  

 

Good luck, I'm so sorry you are going through this stress. It's the absolute worst time for it. 

post #69 of 91

ugggggh boots that nurse!!!! i really hope you can get the support you need to make breastfeeding work for you & Lyle... i like 1st time mama's suggestion of getting someone there with a scale so you can see how much he's getting at the breast. 

 

i've been having pretty regular contractions for a few hours now. they are still really manageable and i think this could go on for awhile but everyone around me seems to think this is the real thing! 

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Boots - My best friend had a baby 3 weeks early and he also had jaundice and had to be checked regularly at the hospital. I can tell you for certain that she DID NOT supplement with formula. She only breastfed her son. Don't stress out, seriously. His levels will go back up. If he's on the lights and everything, it will be okay. The levels usually are at their lowest about a week after birth and then they'll go up. I know it's hard to listen to your instincts when you're freaked out and the nurses are telling you something different, but just try to nurse him as much as you can. This can work for you - don't get discouraged!

 

eleuthia - Yay! I can't wait to hear how your labor goes!!

post #71 of 91

Ainh - sorry to hear of your "failed" induction, I can't imagine how emotionally draining that must have been.  How did you fare today?  I hope that by now your labor has kicked in - either naturally or from your 2nd try!

Boots - thinking of you!!  Sounds overwhelming to worry about measuring, pumping, supplementing, bf'ing... hope you're regaining your strength and that Lyle's levels are staying down and continues to nurse successfully.  You'll make it to EBF, you will!!

Andaluza - you're getting close!!  Sounds like your body's starting to get ready (and for you too Sarahdb and Sallyrae!!!), woohoo!!  The belly casting sounds like fun!  How did it turn out?

Lakeruby - Hoooray for no GBS!!  And Rebecca - good luck w/your test (I can't imagine getting c-diff at this stage or during labor, what a nightmare!!)

Tizzy - it's so encouraging to hear how quickly you're back on your feet - 4 kids and all!!  You rock!!

Penny - Yayyy for no pre-E !!  Fingers crossed that your appt goes well on Sat and that you can stay at your birth center!

Veritas - Sounds like a wonderful visit you're having w/your sister, and your homemade meals sound so great (I'm envious)!  DH and I have hit that wall as far as cooking one more meal for ourselves.... I can't wait to put my inlaws in charge of cooking once they get here!

Lily - that's awesome that some of your family will be around for the birth - yay DH!!  Hope you're keeping it all together there.... I <3 Ina May and plan to re-read her positive birth stories over the weekend to get my head back in a good place where it needs to be.....

Eluethia - good luck!!  Hope we get some exciting news from you soon!!!

 

 

SOooo, 11 days past EDD here.  Today was my 2nd day "on the list" for induction, but the hospital STILL cannot take me due to "lack of space" (apparently I share this list w/9 others)!!!  Doctor made a 2nd failed attempt at a membrane sweep today, but I'm still only barely 1cm dilated.  I'm currently convinced that my body will not go into labor on it's own and that I actually do need to be induced.  We tried so much, to no avail (this is now our 3rd weekend w/no baby!!)  Any "improvement" that I got from the 2 rounds of acupuncture and the caulophyllum pellets (which I've completely used up) have petered out and I'm back to feeling quite "normal" again....

 

Good news is that baby got a perfect score on today's ultrasound (they will do another on Monday).  And we got a peek at his face this time - he has big smushy lips and chubby cheeks, which was such a surprise to both of us!  Bad news - baby has flipped to my right side in the last 24 hrs, giving me new concern of bad positioning....

 

My inlaws and step-DD hit the road tomorrow and are due to arrive here on Sunday.  I absolutely don't want to be laboring at home w/them here.... so a hospital stay during the entire induction/labor is looking more appealing now (I cannot believe how many times I've re-negotiated these "ideal" or "acceptable" scenarios over the past weeks!!!) .... heck, I might even ask for an extra night at the hospital - just so that I can have my precious "alone time" w/baby and DH since the chance to have it at home has now passed.....

 

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Oh my.  I'm causing quite the problems.  I cancelled my second induction too!!  I just couldn't stand thinking that I was putting myself at unnecessary risk for a c/s.  But...I agreed to an NST and I felt like baby seemed in distress.  They said baby was fine and set me up for a non-negotiable induction on Monday night.  Now I'm regretting not doing it...  except, I kind of feel like I'm in early labor finally.  I'm having the right kind of contractions about every 10 minutes, but they aren't getting a lot stronger over the last hour.  Not sure when I'll feel confident waking hubby???  I'm driving everyone absolutely crazy with my induction indecision.  I sure hope this is it!!!
 

post #73 of 91
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Ainh - I hope this is it for you as well!!! Don't feel guilty about postponing an induction! If you and the baby are fine, then there's nothing to worry about. I hope we hear good news from you soon!

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Ainh, I totally agree with sally!  As long as baby looks fine on the NST, I think you can safely wait.  I hope you're in early labor and have this baby today or tomorrow!

 

NewMum, good news on the u/s!  I'm glad to hear baby is doing fine.  Is there any way they could have gotten your due date wrong?  I wouldn't jump to the conclusion that you won't go into labor on your own.  As I've said before, I know lots of women who go into labor without any prelabor symptoms.  I'm sorry though that you won't get that alone time with DH that you were looking forward to.  It's so hard to plan these things.  My dad agreed to stay home from his vacation to wait for the baby, and now I'm convinced the baby won't come until next weekend and he'll miss his whole vacation for no reason.  I did warn him that could happen, but it would still make me feel awful.  But babies come when they want to.  And you might find you appreciate having people around more than you think now.  Who knows?  But good luck either way and I'm still sending you lots of good contraction-y thoughts!

 

Eleuthia, baby?!?! 

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So I woke up about 4:00 this morning, and my first thought was, "Do I have a bladder infection?" I was feeling this sharp sensation low down in my pelvis. But I've never had a bladder or UT infection, so I don't actually know what they feel like. And then the sensation was gone. But then it came back. I started watching the clock, and they were coming every 8 minutes, but not lasting very long. After about 2 hours of that, I finally got up since I couldn't sleep. Since then, I've had a few more, but much more sporadic and spaced far apart. Were those contractions? I guess I just don't know what they're actually supposed to feel like, so I was kind of taken aback. I was expecting something a little more like menstrual cramps, but these felt sharper. And my whole pelvic area feels achey, similar to how it would feel when I'd get my period (back when that happened--seems so long ago!). Anyway, I'm OK with the fact that the (possible) contractions disappeared--I'm not sure I'm ready to have this baby today because I'd kind of like one more weekend with just DH. And I also know that this could go on for days or weeks, right?

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So I woke up about 4:00 this morning, and my first thought was, "Do I have a bladder infection?" I was feeling this sharp sensation low down in my pelvis. But I've never had a bladder or UT infection, so I don't actually know what they feel like. And then the sensation was gone. But then it came back. I started watching the clock, and they were coming every 8 minutes, but not lasting very long. After about 2 hours of that, I finally got up since I couldn't sleep. Since then, I've had a few more, but much more sporadic and spaced far apart. Were those contractions? I guess I just don't know what they're actually supposed to feel like, so I was kind of taken aback. I was expecting something a little more like menstrual cramps, but these felt sharper. And my whole pelvic area feels achey, similar to how it would feel when I'd get my period (back when that happened--seems so long ago!). Anyway, I'm OK with the fact that the (possible) contractions disappeared--I'm not sure I'm ready to have this baby today because I'd kind of like one more weekend with just DH. And I also know that this could go on for days or weeks, right?

 

I had something very similar last week.  It was incredibly painful, sharp pain, very low--I assume my cervix, coupled with contraction like feelings. It lasted for a few hours and then went away. I was still pre-term at the time so my doc wanted me to come in to the hospital to get checked if it started up again, but it never did.  I think they might have been contractions, but I'm also wondering if they were the baby in a strange position pressing on my cervix.   At this stage, everyone has such different types of labors that it's hard to know I think what any given sensation means.  I'd just take it easy today and see what happens.  Good luck, especially if  things do heat up again today!

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Any news, Eleuthia or Ainh?  Excited to see if we have any weekend babes!!

 

Penny, so glad to hear that things are going well! Hoping that the short time left is restful and uneventful.

 

Veritas, sorry about the stretch marks, but it sounds like they are in an unobtrusive place, at least. I'm not celebrating yet, since he seems like he's coming late, but so far the slathering in coconut oil and burt's bees (or genes, mom said she didn't get any) seems to be working. I do have them on my hips and some light ones on by breasts from puberty, though, so I don't know if I can realistically hope to turn out like my mom.

 

Boots, hope you have a calm and peaceful weekend with the baby and love your pediatrician on Monday!

 

Lily, that's great news that your family will be around and that your dh was able to express that to them! I'm sure they are really happy to know you want them there.

 

NewMum, I think you have a great idea about staying in the hospital to carve out some alone time. That sounds like it will be the most likely scenario at this point and I'm really hoping you don't have much time at all left to wait. Wonderful news that all looks great.
 

Sarah, that's exciting that you may be having contractions!!

 

AFM, not much happening here. We did the belly cast Friday night and the baby was moving like crazy! Dh has plans for it, so I'm holding off commenting until he finishes. We went for a movies/pizza lunch yesterday and he was also moving up a storm. Last night he seemed really low and I slept like a rock for 6 hours straight. But no new sensations or contractions.

Dh and I went to a few estate sales in the area with children's things and bought a swing for the backyard and tons of books for baby. They had a bike trailer with a lot of accessories for it at one place, but I would need to investigate the brand and I didn't even write it down. My mom  is sending me a baby keepsake book (and an afghan she knit) because I mentioned I wanted to get the footprints done in the hospital when they do them anyway. That's what our birth teacher suggested. So now there are more plans for the early week that baby's on-time arrival would complicate--we're also seeing another pediatrician on Tuesday because that practice has lactation consultants and I want to consider having that option. I would say we're tempting fate, but I really don't get the impression he'll be here by or on his due date.

post #78 of 91

Oh how exciting Ainh, Sarahdb and Eluthia!

For what it's worth, my early labour contractions felt more like a tooth ache kind of sensation. Obviously not exactly, but just that sharpness to them :)

 

 

Boots - I'm sorry you're still having added stress, I agree with 1st time about maybe going more by feel and less by the book.  Also perhaps weighing the baby instead of fussing so much about measuring the milk might help? Your Dr. or Pedi (even if you haven't met yet, call the office to ask!) probably has a scale you can borrow for specifically that purpose.  I find it's absolutely impossible to guesstimate how much baby gets while nursing, I don't have any specific troubles with pumping but I can pump 4oz on one side and think that's all that's there, then baby feeds and it's a huge difference lol!

post #79 of 91

Hi everyone! Just catching up, and wanting to send good labor vibes to you Ainh, Sarahdb, and Eleuthia if it it in fact time!

Joy, I hope you are doing okay today!

 

I totally agree, that if baby is doing good on an NST then induction is negotiable!! Good luck.

 

Boots, still hoping and praying things get better soon. Especially with the nursing. I know it can be so hard at first~! grouphug.gif

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Hey ladies! Not to jinx myself or anything over here, but I might also be in early labor. I've been have quite a few contractions in the past hour and they haven't stopped yet. I mean, they feel absolutely nothing like the contractions I had the first time around, so I really have no idea what's going on over here. Either way, I'll keep you posted! 

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