Questions about bedtime and bed-sharing with 10-week old

[alliecat123]

Hi - I have been bed-sharing with my 10-week old since the second week.  We usually go to bed around 9/9:30pm which is when I usually went to bed before I had him.  Now I am starting to think that he needs to go to bed earlier, as he is showing signs of drowsiness earlier (yawning, rubbing eyes, fussiness) - usually around 7/7:30pm.  The problem is that I'm not ready to go to bed that early, so I am trying to figure out how to get him down for the first 2 hours without me.  So far I have not had much luck.  I have tried rocking/nursing to sleep and putting him in a bassinet next to the bed, but he just wakes up and cries.  We also tried putting him down for a nap in his swing but he only naps that late between 20-40 minutes and then wakes up wired until 10:30pm or so.  I also tried nursing him to sleep in the bed and sneaking away, but he always wakes up when I try to sneak out, even if he's been sleeping for 30 minutes. 

Any thoughts on how to do this?  Do I just need to give in and start going to bed earlier for now?  I know 10 weeks is still very young, so maybe I am trying to change things too soon for him?

[wanderinblues]

my son is 6 weeks and what i do is wear him for an hour or two before bed. nothing else puts him into such a deep, long sleep. i am able to take him out of the wrap and lay him down without rousing him (as long as i lay right down beside him) and then he keeps on sleeping till his middle of the night feeding.

[Princessjules]

Maybe if you had a sling to wear him around until you're ready for bed? Wearing my LO while loading the dishwasher always put him to sleep when he was fussy and he would sleep in the sling for hours no matter what I was doing... eating, reading, cleaning and laundry. Maybe that would help until you are ready for bed, if Wanderinblues' suggestion of laying him down after wearing him doesn't work?

Sorry baby doesn't seem to like sleeping by himself... My son went through a period where he would only nap while I held him, but he grew out of it. Babies sleep habits can change so much especially when they are little... I hope you find what works for you!