I was homeschooled, but my parents didn't start until I was in 2nd grade. I remember having a traumatic experience in kindergarten/1st grade. I went to an inner-city "Christian" private school for those 2 years and for some reason I became extremely shy to the point that I would not talk at all to anyone all day long. I remember feeling very anxious about school and any social situation at that age. I still remember those feelings, and I don't know why. Obviously I can't blame that on homeschooling, because it started before we started homeschooling. We also moved around a few times, so maybe that also added to the stress? But, I wonder if homeschooling allowed me to continue to be like that and didn't force me to grow out of it. Maybe if I had stayed in school I would have gotten over, it, I don't know...
Anyway, I continued to be like that, as a kid, even after we were homeschooled. I was fine at home and happier but had serious shyness issues anywhere outside of the house. I remember hating that about myself. It took me until highschool to really grow out of it, which is way too long in my opinion. It's normal for kids to be shy, but I was shy to an extreme and it shouldn't have taken me almost my entire childhood to grow out of it.
So, I'm afraid of my kids having this problem. I don't really know why I was like that. I was never abused or anything. I always thought I would never homeschool my kids because I was afraid I'd be allowing them to be anti-social like I was and I wanted to really make it a priority to be more social and have friends as a kid. Now I am reconsidering home-schooling. My baby is only 6 months old so I have a while to decide, but just thinking about it!
What do others think? From your experience, does home-schooling have anything to do with social skills? I know there are plenty of ways to learn social skills while homeschooling, and perhaps even better social skills because you can be proactive about where and when your child meets with others and makes friends. I know that personality and some temperament is hereditary, so perhaps my child will be naturally shy, but I want to do everything I can to make sure she is not shy to the extreme point that I was. I always felt very different and alienated from others. I don't see anything my parents did wrong, except for moving several times and going from a small city to a large one, which perhaps that was a big change for a 5 year old.