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Hynobirthing?

post #1 of 11
Thread Starter 

Hi, mamas!

 

We are planning on taking a Birthing From Within class starting in the fall, which I am very much looking forward to. I have been thinking of taking a Hypnobirthing class in addition to the BFW class. I don't have a lot of knowledge of/experience with Hypnobirthing and I am wondering if any of you have any thoughts about it? Have you used it and was it useful to you. The classes are pricey enough that I don't want to spend the money if it is a waste of time. Also, do any of you have experiences with other types of childbirth education classes that you particularly enjoyed or did not find helpful? 

post #2 of 11

I loved, loved, loved our BFW class. As far as hypnobirthing, no personal experience but I have one friend who raves about her birth using hypnobirthing techniques and another who felt unprepared with it. In both cases that may have had nothing to do with the class/content and everything to do with their personalities/pregnancies.

 

If I recall, you're envisioning a homebirth if your BP and placenta align, is that right? (I'm in the same boat placenta-wise, humph). If it begins to look like a hospital birth is a posibility, I would also suggest that you might consider taking whatever tour or class the hospital offers. With DS, I found it helpful to have some knowledge of the hospital's "normal" as I prepared to birth there in a way that fit my definition of "normal".

post #3 of 11

I teach BFW, so I love it, and I'm delighted you're taking a class.  However, I audited a Hypnobirthing class for my doula certification, and it was a very interesting experience.  I don't see it as contrary to Birthing From Within, but it is a drastically different approach.  Hypnobirthing seems to me to be very focused on positivity and creating positive outcomes by thinking and feeling positively.  Birthing From Within is more about facing the reality of whatever happens in birth and parenting, and being able to be fully present and active whether things are going the way you 'wanted' them to or not. 

 

I second the 'if you are planning a hospital birth take their class" school of thought.  I think it tells you so much about your hospital and what to expect from them (but usually very little about birth itself.)

post #4 of 11

I want to second mamabeakey's assessment - two very different approaches to birth! I took Bradley classes with #1 & #2, and like BFW they are about engaging in what is going on, vs. what I see as a separation from the experience with the hypnobirthers I know. I had a good friend who swears by hypnobirthing, but interestingy ended up with 2 c-sections. I have often wondered if her distancing from the experience was related. *shrug* Just another 2 cents!

post #5 of 11

I tend to agree with the last two mamas. I was interested in hypnobirthing, but once I read into it I found that it wasn't really what I thought it was. I really love BFW centered birthing prep. I agree that it seems to embrace only the positive aspects of labor and birth, but from my own experience I think that whatever shows up during your labor is there for you to embrace and to deal with --good, bad, and ugly! 
I am just looking into hypnobabies, which is actually a very different approach, IMO, but I haven't gotten that far into the course yet to really decide if it will be a tool that I use during labor or not.

post #6 of 11
Thread Starter 

Thanks for the wisdom, mamas. I am so glad I asked. It is so nice to have you all as a resource since I don't have much in the way of community around me when it comes to pregnancy/baby stuff. 

 

I think I might just skip the hynobirthing class. I am really excited about the BFW class and I think that it is really more what I am looking for. I think I have this underlying fear of not having the right tools at my disposal for coping with labor and that tends to make me want to over prepare. 

post #7 of 11

Kate - of course it is important to prepare your self, BUT at the same time, be prepared to let go & allow things to happen however they happen. I was talking to a friend of mine today who is 35 weeks (and called because she said she was finally ready to hear my words of wisdom, lol!), and I gaver her what i feel is the most important birth advice you can give: prepare yourself well, and during birth, be of two minds: completely standing in the intentions you are creating for the birth, while letting go & allowing the experience to flow :) You will be fine, and BFW is great :))))

post #8 of 11
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Originally Posted by segolilymama View Post

Kate - of course it is important to prepare your self, BUT at the same time, be prepared to let go & allow things to happen however they happen. I was talking to a friend of mine today who is 35 weeks (and called because she said she was finally ready to hear my words of wisdom, lol!), and I gaver her what i feel is the most important birth advice you can give: prepare yourself well, and during birth, be of two minds: completely standing in the intentions you are creating for the birth, while letting go & allowing the experience to flow :) You will be fine, and BFW is great :))))

every mama NEEDS to hear these words and to really embrace them! Labor and birth are enigmas--they are divine perfection--they bring with them the experiences WE and our kid{s} need in order for our souls to grow in the way that they most need to. Planning them is impossible, being prepared is the best we can do, but I think that is a very different 'prepared' than most understand. Emotionally prepared is really KEY and even then--how can you be emotionally prepared for an experience that will be life changing in ways that you have never experienced before? All births are different, but they really do prepare you for life with children---you just have to let go and trust that you are enough, you have enough, and you will get what you allow yourself and accept from the experience{s}. 

great words of wisdom, segolilymama < 3

post #9 of 11

Thanks mamaharrison - those words really ARE my life's work - it is what my doctoral research is centered around. I have a bigger theory that people who birth without thought - meaning they don't prepare, don't make conscious, informed choices, etc, are a critical reason that our society is in the space it is today - with kids who have very little respect for themselves & others, a society that really does not respect children, etc. I'm leaving that for my later years writing & researching, but I have a sense those links exist.
 

post #10 of 11
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Originally Posted by segolilymama View Post

Thanks mamaharrison - those words really ARE my life's work - it is what my doctoral research is centered around. I have a bigger theory that people who birth without thought - meaning they don't prepare, don't make conscious, informed choices, etc, are a critical reason that our society is in the space it is today - with kids who have very little respect for themselves & others, a society that really does not respect children, etc. I'm leaving that for my later years writing & researching, but I have a sense those links exist.
 

Interesting. I can see the connection, however, I can also see a myrid of other reasons tied into it, too. I mean, what about those who do 'prepare' and make conscious, informed choices that happen to be misguided or based on fear {modern medicine} and/or non evidence based notions? Of course, I am sure you are just pulling in your highest vibe on the issue and recognize these many other contributiong factors, too. Any sort of legitimate research and discovery in this sense would be welcome! Thank you for the work you do < 3

post #11 of 11

One thing that BFW talks about is reduction of birth trauma.  What research seems to show is that in some ways it doesn't matter (for that purpose) as much what the actual birth outcomes are as whether parents feel they had some autonomy in the process, whether they felt supported and listened to.  So maybe the basis for the conscious, informed choices isn't as important as whether those choices are respected and worked with, even if circumstances change.  But that's a maybe - I'm not necessarily asserting it.

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