Looking around the forum it seems like ideal bedtimes really depend on the specific child. My DD is almost 22 months and goes to bed at 8:30 every night, waking up at 5:00 to nurse and then waking up for good at 7:00 a.m. She does really well with a consistent bedtime and happily gets in bed and talks and sings to herself until she falls asleep.
I'm just wondering if 8:30 is too late. She has never really shown signs of being tired at night even when she is (by the time she hits the meltdown, we've waited way too long), so we have just kind of based her bedtimes on when she seems happy to go in the crib. It used to be 7:00, and we have pushed it back by half hours over the past year or so. But now this seems awfully late to me. She doesn't necessarily seem tired during the day; she is in a pretty fussy phase but I've chalked it up to normal toddlerhood. My concern is that if we start putting her down earlier she might stop sleeping through the night. What have your experiences been?