DS is 20 months, very spirited (he's on my shoulders as I type this), and the car seat has been a source of frustration since his birth. It goes through phases, but when it's really bad (like now) I feel home bound because it's such a struggle to go anywhere.
This latest thing is that he wants to play in the front of the car. If I do manage to get him into his car seat, he immediately flips out of it and climbs into the front to play with buttons on the dash. I usually wind up giving him my phone or the ipad to play with, because that's better than physically wrangling him into the seat, but it feels like bribing and I'm not comfortable with that either.
Once he's in the seat he's calm, but he does the same thing when I try to get him out of the car. The second he's unbuckled he twists away and up to the front.
Now, I think that what's really going on is him trying to regain control within a transition. I don't think it's the pure lure of the buttons. All of a sudden this "difficult to transition" thing hit us like a train. I used to be really good at waiting for just the right moment to transition him, but lately those moments just don't happen anymore. Or rather, they happen, but the transition isn't any easier.
He's still RF, and I'm so tempted to turn him. Now that I'm typing it out, it seems silly and I'm realizing that I'm just wanting to do SOMETHING, anything, that might help. My rationale has been that turning him might be exciting and new and fun and maybe distract him from wanting to be in the front seat.
I feel like it's either that, or permanently installing the ipad on the back head rest. Ugh.
Any BTDT advice? Or tips on transitions in general? Even though I use warnings and tell him what we're about to do, he doesn't understand it yet.