No need to apologize. It's a discussion!
Fortunately, thanks to modern medicine, the actual modern Western death rate is more like 9 in 100,000, according to the WHO. In Sub-Saharan Africa, which is rich with folk-wisdom and midwives, but lacking in medical supplies, the death rate is 900 in 100,000. Let me say that again in another way: when modern medicine isn't available to assist with childbirth, the death rate is two orders of magnitude higher. So although we can all agree that "birth isn't a sickness!" I actually don't agree with the assessment that "birth isn't a medical event", because we have good statistics, gathered today, that tell us that without medical expertise - which doesn't necessarily mean provided by an O.B., mind you, Certified Nurse Midwives have great results in studies, for example - it's a hugely risky medical event.
I only have time to respond to this part of your post.
Bolding mine. You are wrong with this. You are assuming that accurate information is collected & kept w/ regards to mothers who die from childbirth related causes. Like many other instances in this society, we are terribly short sighted when it comes to the tracking of the after effects of what we do to other humans (treat them as guinea pigs really - vaccines, circumcision, formula feeding, c-sections, etc.) The fact is, that in America, if these records are kept at all, they are far from comprehensive. There is not a space on the death certificates in most states that asks if the mother gave birth recently (or within a time frame that would be appropriate). If you would like to learn more about how this impacts the statistics, you can read up on Ina May Gaskin. She has been working for a long time (since before 2007 when I heard her speak on the topic) to get accurate information collected & compiled so we can know the true maternal morbidity rate in the US. Since it was five years ago, I don't recall much of the information, but I do remember enough to know that relying on this information to make an argument is shaky at best.