Hello all, this is new to me. I have 5 kiddos, my 3 older dd's father passed away 5 years ago, and 2 years ago, I had twins with a new guy.
However, we are no longer together due to his abuse and alcoholism. After he was served with the pfa, he moved 2 hrs back to our old hometown.
We are in the process right now of mediation for the visitation of the twins. He brought up how to handle the holidays. My question is, when there are half siblings involved, does that influence holidays at all?
My other children are ages 9, 7, and 6. They would be most upset if their younger siblings were not present for Christmas morning gift opening, or their Easter basket hunt, etc.
Would it be out of line to suggest splitting that day? Say let them be home in the am for all that stuff, then they could visit their father later in the day? How do others handle this?
I feel as though even with his alcohol abuse, my hands are still somewhat tied. My attorney told me that the mediator may or may not order him to any alcohol evals, or any other such thing and that we can put stipulations in like that he cannot drink 24 hrs prior to or at any time during his visits with them. I can refuse visits if he smells of alcohol and his visits are supervised at one of his siblings' homes.
Anyway, that 's not my issue right now, I really just wanted to know how others handle holidays, birthdays, etc., when there are half siblings involved?
Thanks so much for any help.