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[element2012]

Ok, so montessorimama already put it out there that she's considering trying for another in the new year.  What about everyone else??  Is it wrong that I totally fawn over newborns already?  If AF comes back soon, I would be pretty tempted to just go for again (at least then I won't have to bother with trying to get these 15 stinking pounds off!!). What are your plans?

[Conchobhar]

We're done at 2.  I had a copper IUD put in at 8 weeks pp.  Though I'm a little sad not to go through the birth process ever again, especially at the birth center, we are very happy with 2.

Edited by Conchobhar - 8/11/12 at 12:23am

[AfricanQueen99]

My husband got the big V.

Ironically I thought I was pregnant the first V month, but right before AF returned. I would have been due on kid 1's birthday...kids 2 and 3 already share a birthday. How cool would that be? Of course I seriously would have ended up going nuts!

My family of five is complete...and perfect.

[hannabee]

We're not trying but not preventing.

I'm pretty sure AF showed up last month, tho it was super light and lasted only 2 1/2 days.  I can't wait to try for another; I wouldn't mind my kids close in age and I want to be done by the time I'm 35 (5 years away), but my goal is to lose at least 17 more pounds.  I'm approx 5  pounds away from pre-pregnancy weight, and would love to lose some additional weight before getting knocked up again :P

[element2012]

Hanna, I hear you I'd love to get down to my pre-pregnancy weight again before TTC but this weight doesn't want to "just fall off".  I think I can be more mindful to not gain as much next time, or I guess I should say I will have to be more mindful since I still haven't lost from the first! I was walking with the munchkin yesterday and realized it's freaking August already, which means October will be here soon and I will 28(!!), and I would definitely like to have another LO here by the time I am 29, so AF needs to get her act together and come back!  As far as how many I'd like to actually have, I've always thought 4 by 35 would be great, but we'll see if that's how I still feel after 2, ha!

[hannabee]

Originally Posted by element2012 

 As far as how many I'd like to actually have, I've always thought 4 by 35 would be great, but we'll see if that's how I still feel after 2, ha!

Lol, I'm shooting for 4 by 35 too!!! Whether it happens or not is the question (that would be 4 kids under 6yrs old ) but that's what I'm aiming for! 

[montessorimama1]

I went through several months of "don't touch me, I don't want to even RISK getting pregnant again".  AF came back at 4 months PP when we started doing solids, but I had mid-cycle bleeding so I went to see my acupuncturist and all is well now.  My hormones are RAGING now (I'm 36 so that could have something to do with it), I would get pregnant tomorrow if it weren't for the fact that Zach is super heavy and I just can't see myself pregnant and carrying him everywhere (I'm really not a stroller person).  I'm hoping he'll start walking by January so at least I don't have to carry him all the time.  I'm also waiting for my husband to finish writing his darn book because I'm going to need a lot more support from him when I get pregnant and right now he's just not that available. 

I totally hear you ladies on the weight, but I'm not going to stress over these pesky last 10 lbs.  I'm sure I'll have plenty of time and opportunity to lose them when I'm chasing two toddlers. *sigh*  Wouldn't it be great if we got knocked up at the same time?  

[Kindermama]

double post...sorry!

Edited by Kindermama - 8/16/12 at 8:33am

[Kindermama]

I already had a "scare"! AF came back just days before he turned 5 months. Had 2 more 28 days apart and then the next was 5 days late. Turns out my cycle was lining up with my mother's helper (we both confessed we were moody from AF one day and it suddenly dawned on me why I was late!). How can I already have gone through a "scare" when we've only dtd twice since E was born. 

He totally uses me as a pacifier ALL NIGHT LONG starting at 7-8pm so DH and I don't get much alone time :( My libido is back big time too! DH scheduled a re-V....yes, his second one--he had a reversal---and I'm having a hard time with it. If he gets another one, there is no turning back ever after that and I just don't want to close that door. All I know is if I have another he/she is getting a paci from birth! LOL! 

Edited by Kindermama - 8/17/12 at 11:41am

[juneboymum]

We aren't preventing either but no signs of AF.  I got preg with Eli before AF came back the last time (just before Camden's 2nd birthday) so it may be awhile before it's possible again.  My goal is 4 before 40...I'm 34 now.  I thought I'd want a bigger gap between kids this time, but I got baby fever when Eli was just a couple months old.  I think I'm crazy because I always say I couldn't imagine a young todder and newborn at the same time.  When Eli was born Camden was just old enough to do a lot of things for himself and had been potty trained for almost 6 mo.  I guess I just lean toward letting nature take it's course and going with it!

[Kindermama]

Originally Posted by Kindermama 
 I just don't want to close that door. All I know is if I have another he/she is getting a paci from birth! LOL! 

Wow, did I really write that!? There's no way I want to have another baby. I know I'm done because this time I actually gave all the baby stuff away as he outgrew it. I've never done that before!

I'm considering a Mirena...anyone else have one and want to give me feedback? 

[juneboymum]

I have personally never had an iud but many of my friends tried Mirena and hated it. Lots of weight gain, hormone fluctuations, just feeling bad overall.

[Kindermama]

Originally Posted by juneboymum 

I have personally never had an iud but many of my friends tried Mirena and hated it. Lots of weight gain, hormone fluctuations, just feeling bad overall.

Ugh! So confusing....I hear 50/50. Some looooove it. Love the absent periods, it doesn't make them all psycho mentally and no weight gain. Then the other 50%....miserable! Downright miserable and had it removed soon after. 

Knowing me, I'll react to it. I'm sensitive to everything that affect my hormones. What to do, what to do? I could chart but I don't want to. I hate condoms. What is left aside from a re-vas? 

[AfricanQueen99]

Kindermama - I had a mirena put in when my oldest was 1.5 so I could go through my cancer treatments.  I had every possible negative reaction to it, but it's hard to say if it was from the actual mirena or the emotional state of my health at that time (it wasn't a good period in my life, as you can imagine).  Anyway, I had it pulled the second I could get pregnant again without causing serious harm to the fetus...and we went back to NFP.  I did end up getting pregnant again shortly after, but that one didn't make it.  No idea if it was a fluke pregnancy or due to either the mirena or the radioactivity of my body.

[Devaskyla]

Hopefully there will be another option soon. They're looking to start human clinical trials and hopefully have it on the market in 2015. http://www.parsemusfoundation.org/vasalgel-home/ It's a non-profit, so they're trying to raise money to do the studies. If it works, it sounds like a great option. Long lasting, easily reversible and for men.

[Kindermama]

Originally Posted by Devaskyla 

Hopefully there will be another option soon. They're looking to start human clinical trials and hopefully have it on the market in 2015. http://www.parsemusfoundation.org/vasalgel-home/ It's a non-profit, so they're trying to raise money to do the studies. If it works, it sounds like a great option. Long lasting, easily reversible and for men.

cool! I sent a link to Dh. Thanks!

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Kindermama - I had a mirena put in when my oldest was 1.5 so I could go through my cancer treatments.  I had every possible negative reaction to it, but it's hard to say if it was from the actual mirena or the emotional state of my health at that time (it wasn't a good period in my life, as you can imagine).  Anyway, I had it pulled the second I could get pregnant again without causing serious harm to the fetus...and we went back to NFP.  I did end up getting pregnant again shortly after, but that one didn't make it.  No idea if it was a fluke pregnancy or due to either the mirena or the radioactivity of my body.

 

 

 

Thanks for sharing your experience! I just replied to your post about Q's FTT. The radioactivity in your system at one point makes sense homeopathically. She might need a constitutional remedy at some point to get a deep balance in her body...but the Bioplasma is a great place to start, regardless!