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[texasfarmom]

Can I please use this as a place to whine? My husband told me the other day his ears hurt from me talking so much about the end of pregnancy. And, I chose the wrong friend to complain to the other day because she has been trying to get pregnant and carry a baby to full term for over a year. :(

I'm only 3 days overdue today, but I was thinking I would probably have this baby early or on time. Of course baby has other plans... I'm incredibly uncomfortable and have a long list of complaints.

My crotch has felt VERY bruised for months. I mean like a 6-7 on the pain scale.

My maternity clothes don't fit anymore and therefore sometimes when I would like to leave the house I can't-can't go in my undies!

Undies!-too small as well!

Heartburn is bad.

I'm very tired and just want to sit or lay on the couch but my sweet toddler constantly needs something. All.the.time.

TMI but I can barely reach to effectively wipe after using the bathroom.

I don't remember this happening last time, but I am constantly getting texts, calls, and fb messages asking if I'm in labor yet/is the

    baby here yet? Don't they think I will let them know when I have it?!

I'm tired of having to pee every hour around the clock.

Ok, I'm done for now. Don't get me wrong, I am very thankful to be having another and feel very blessed that Baby and me have been and still are healthy. I'm excited for labor, delivery, and life as a family of four. The end is just tough and I'm ready to not be pregnant.

Anyone else?

[ilovetchotchkes]

I'm not overdue, but oh my gosh mama... *hugs* 

I can tell you something my doula told me that made me laugh. 

The end of pregnancy is like being in jail. You don't know when your parole is going to be and its HORRENDOUS. (She went to 43 weeks so she would know!!!) 

Hang in there mama. 

[NewMumJoy]

Why hello there, Texasfarmom - and welcome to the club!!  I'm now 12 days overdue (see my story in the weekly chat thread, lol)......you are definitely not alone!!  I can certainly sympathize with your entire list of complaints - not fun at all!  Hang in there mama, we're all going through this together, so this is the perfect place to rant and get support!!

((HUUUUUGS!!!!))

[LilyTiger]

Ahhhhhhhhhhhh!  I'm so glad someone created one of these.  I was just talking to DH in the car and as sweet as he is he can't fully understand.  I'm now 40 weeks, 6 days.  I'm ready to kill someone. 

The physical complaints are annoying, such as:

- massive increase in stretch marks every day (I didn't have any until 38 weeks)

- swollen corpse feet

- inability to elevate feet while breathing at the same time due to size of belly

- constipation (only alleviated by copious amounts of metamucil)

The mental complaints are really the kicker though:

- false labor every other night, just to get my hopes up

- desperately trying to have this baby around other people's schedules (my sister was in town, now my dad has cancelled his vacation and I'm sure I won't have the baby until next week, making his sacrifice pointless, etc)

- my due date buddy just had her baby today, and it was the perfect natural birth which makes me positive I'm never going to have my baby at all or it will be a terrible birth ending in a c-section

- crazy desire to cry at nothing

After having a pretty wonderful pregnancy in terms of mood and just general relaxation, I have now entered this phase where my brain no longer belongs to me and I vacillate between being an emotional basketcase and a homicidal maniac.  It's really really weird.  I have a sweep scheduled (if we can actually do it) for Monday and a NST for Tuesday.  My doc won't push an induction on me and I'm really not looking forward to one, but I'm not sure I can take going to 43 weeks.  I know that probably won't happen, but just the thought is terrifying.

Ok, end rant.  Much love to everyone else in this position, particularly our long-suffering NewMumJoy!!!  I keep hoping you have your baby soon!  Induction or natural labor, that babe needs to make his/her appearance!!!

[1stTimeMama4-4-10]

Been there. My first was born @ 42 weeks and those last two weeks were HELL. And it was especially bad because the first 40 weeks were great and I genuinely lived being pregnant until then. This time I fully expect baby to be ay least a little bit late, although I won't deny that I am kind of hoping she wants to come on time. Anyway, you are in the right place. I think only women who have been there can truly understand.

[ainh]

Just had my third late baby.  Doctors said dd was 8/1 and she came 8/11...I know dd was more like 8/6, but still, it was demoralizing.  My physical list was long and I went through lots of stages of emotion (hopeful, resigned, depressed, angry, hopeless and finally hopeful again when contractions started).  Hang in there.  Have a good cry and embrace the emotion of the day...I think the emotions serve a purpose having gone late three times now :).  I know it's not easy though. 

[sallyrae17]

I am officially a day late, but I'm not too frustrated yet. I've had contractions start and stop two days in a row now (Saturday and Sunday) and while it's frustrating, I know this baby is coming sooner rather than later! I have another acupuncture appointment scheduled for 11am, so maybe that will get things going stronger. And yes, I am wide awake at 3am because my heartburn is horrible again and the baby is trying to either engage or burrow deep into my pelvis. 

[thenaturefreak]

I feel for you, this is our 4th and they all have come half a week later each time. First 41 weeks, second 41.5 weeks and third 42 weeks. I was due August 1st so Wednesday will be 42 weeks. Which means this baby will probably come Friday or Saturday. But I have to say this time has been the hardest to wait. I went into labor at 40.5 weeks only for it to peter out a day later. Last night I had a bit of labor but went to bed and still no baby.

Physically I feel great, in fact I feel better now than even a few months ago. But getting bugged on facebook about if I have had my baby yet, or people who keep telling me how worried they are that I have had some labor and still don't have a baby. All that stuff is getting tiring. Its just so weird because this isn't the first time that I have been this pregnant, but it seems like everyone has chosen this pregnancy as the time to pick pick pick. I wish more people realized that this is the time to boost a pregnant momma up, not add worry and stress to her life.

[texasfarmom]

Well I'm happy to say Baby N arrived yesterday morning after my vent on Saturday here. I'm so sorry the rest of you are past due. It helped a little bit to remind myself each day that the pregnancy would end and I would feel better. Sure enough, I feel SO much better now. I hope you all get relief soon!!

[FeralFox]

I'm not quite there, but my due date is Friday (3 days away) and I'm already feeling the strain.  I've had pain problems for months, and now I'm at the point that there is no position in which I don't hurt somewhere.  I am so done!  I'm definitely doing the stages of grief thing, currently on anger, because I'm pretty sure my body is broken and just won't go into labor ever.  Maybe in a few more weeks they'll cut a child out of me who will by then be the size of a 3-month-old.  *sigh* and *lol*  I'm trying to laugh at my hopelessness, because what else can I do?

[poppylove]

Originally Posted by FeralFox 

I'm not quite there, but my due date is Friday (3 days away) and I'm already feeling the strain.  I've had pain problems for months, and now I'm at the point that there is no position in which I don't hurt somewhere.  I am so done!  I'm definitely doing the stages of grief thing, currently on anger, because I'm pretty sure my body is broken and just won't go into labor ever.  Maybe in a few more weeks they'll cut a child out of me who will by then be the size of a 3-month-old.  *sigh* and *lol*  I'm trying to laugh at my hopelessness, because what else can I do?

Feral, LOL! 

I feel you on the anger part.

Texas: Congrats on baby's arrival!!!

[poppylove]

whose here with me? It's so weird to be sitting around, just waiting. Sigh. I am pooped. (And actually who is sitting, I am eating pineapples, walking hills, etc.)

[andaluza]

Hi Poppy! How overdue are you? Labor vibes your way!  

I just bought some fresh pineapple tonight, we'll see if it's tasty. It looked like the best one at Whole foods, but dh cut it and the core doesn't look too hot, so I'm not sure if I'll be able to eat the most important part.

I'm still here, 41 w today. I can't complain, though, since I'm not uncomfortable or unwell in any way. I kind of feel as though I could be like this for several months, but thankfully that's not possible! 

My ob said I'm doing everything right. I walked about 7 miles yesterday, spent a lot of time swaying on the exercise ball, did an hour of yoga this am, more swaying on the ball, walked around the mall with dh for over an hour. I had a bpp today and he looks great. Head down, facing my back, cervix soft and in a better position than Thurs, but just not dilating.  Grrr.

[poppylove]

Hi Andaluza, I am eating another pineapple as we speak 

And to be honest, I feel like I have canker sores popping up all over the place because of how acidic it is. This is my 4th! (Well, in a week)

And, technically via early ultrasound, my edd was last friday 8/17 but according to my LMP it was the 12th. Either way I was convinced I would be early. No such luck! 

I have been having pre labor for over a week or two, and frankly, I am emotionally drained. 

But, outside of that, I can't really complain either. No swelling (I live in a coolish climate). Just feeling huge. 

[LeAnn A Doula]

I'm playing the waiting game w you, ladies! I'm only 3 days past my EDD and can't really complain as I'm feeling pretty good. I'm just getting a bit concerned that I haven't had any signs of change at all. Zip. So the prospect of an induction is making this time a very anxious one.

I've been doing a lot of swaying on/leaning over the ball in the evenings. Daily inversion, taylor sitting, hip circles, squatting. With all the to-do's around the new place I haven't been walking as much as I'd like, hoping being up and active most of the day offsets some of that. I do plan to go out for a nice long walk today, oh, and prime the baby's dresser. :) Otherwise I haven't done any real natural remedies to try to encourage labor. I'm kind of saving those for after my MW appt tomorrow. It will be my first cervical check since the physical early in the pregnancy. I'm really hoping she has good news! (progress!) This pregnancy has been super smooth sailing.  My fingers are crossed that my body and baby are just continuing to do their thing and will let me know when I am needed.

Hugs to you! I'm hoping to see your birth announcments soon!

[Thandiwe]

Overdue by 2 days now, myself.  Wish I could say I feel good, but that's just not the case.  He's engaged in a very soft, very effaced cervix that's working on dilating, so there's a constant pinching, burning sensation when I walk as his head digs into my cervix.  Just about every night I have a spell of early labor, strong contractions that fizzle out, so that's disappointing every night!  And the best one? His head is wedged in so tightly that I feel like I have to have a BM every time I go to the bathroom, but I don't.  Ready to meet him!  This is now officially the longest I've been pregnant ever, so it's soooo much fun!  NOT!! 

Hoping we all finish up soon, especially Andaluza and PoppyLove!!

[andaluza]

Hi ladies! Lots of hugs. I hope you get to meet your babies really soon!

I was having a hard time yesterday. Until then, I really didn't believe that my body wouldn't go into labor naturally. Then it hit me that I'd really have to face the induction that is scheduled to start tonight. I totally freaked out and couldn't stop crying for hours yesterday afternoon. It doesn't help that people are becoming more and more inquisitive and I started crying every time someone called yesterday (dh had to handle the calls from family and we just watched the caller id and let it go to messages for the friend and colleague calls). I laugh when I read emails that say "By now, I'm sure you've had the baby..." AUGH. 

Things have gone so well and the baby and I have been so healthy throughout this pregnancy that it just seemed unfathomable. This ob has said over and over that she's letting me go much further than she lets other patients (or other patients want to go), which in itself is unfathomable, since my induction is starting tonight at 41w 2days. I've mentioned before that I'm not pushing for later in part because of dh's work schedule, which really sucks, too, so I'm not looking for alternatives or anyone to talk me out of it. Dh and I are still kind of throwing around the idea of not going. We'll see.  

Aside from some discomfort from my walk yesterday and maybe a few slight bh last night, I really have no indication that the labor process is doing anything at all. My cervix was in a better position at my appointment on Monday, baby was head down and facing back, which I'm trying to help maintain through yoga, walking, and lots of swaying on the ball. I just hope that they find that the cervix had dilated on its own. I'm holding on to that shred of hope since I don't think spontaneous labor will happen today. But I'm still going for a long walk this morning and we're planning on one last thorough cleaning of the house before more rest before we go to the hospital at 8 pm. I can't even focus on the idea that I'll be meeting my baby in the next 24 -48 hours; it just seems unreal.

[Thandiwe]

Originally Posted by andaluza 

Hi ladies! Lots of hugs. I hope you get to meet your babies really soon!

I was having a hard time yesterday. Until then, I really didn't believe that my body wouldn't go into labor naturally. Then it hit me that I'd really have to face the induction that is scheduled to start tonight. I totally freaked out and couldn't stop crying for hours yesterday afternoon. It doesn't help that people are becoming more and more inquisitive and I started crying every time someone called yesterday (dh had to handle the calls from family and we just watched the caller id and let it go to messages for the friend and colleague calls). I laugh when I read emails that say "By now, I'm sure you've had the baby..." AUGH. 

Things have gone so well and the baby and I have been so healthy throughout this pregnancy that it just seemed unfathomable. This ob has said over and over that she's letting me go much further than she lets other patients (or other patients want to go), which in itself is unfathomable, since my induction is starting tonight at 41w 2days. I've mentioned before that I'm not pushing for later in part because of dh's work schedule, which really sucks, too, so I'm not looking for alternatives or anyone to talk me out of it. Dh and I are still kind of throwing around the idea of not going. We'll see.  

Aside from some discomfort from my walk yesterday and maybe a few slight bh last night, I really have no indication that the labor process is doing anything at all. My cervix was in a better position at my appointment on Monday, baby was head down and facing back, which I'm trying to help maintain through yoga, walking, and lots of swaying on the ball. I just hope that they find that the cervix had dilated on its own. I'm holding on to that shred of hope since I don't think spontaneous labor will happen today. But I'm still going for a long walk this morning and we're planning on one last thorough cleaning of the house before more rest before we go to the hospital at 8 pm. I can't even focus on the idea that I'll be meeting my baby in the next 24 -48 hours; it just seems unreal.

(((Hugs)))).  It has to be a very emotional place you are in today.  Blessings as you move through your day and process. 

[Veritas Vitae]

Hugs, Andaluza, I'm sorry your facing the induction clock.  I hope that things start to progress for you. 

Thandiwe, I wish you were feeling a bit more comfortable.

LeAnn and Poppy, I'm glad you two are at least feeling comfortable.

Labor vibes to you all! [But none for me yet ]

[poppylove]

Oh, Andaluza. Hugs and love my friend.  

"our babies are born at exactly the right place and time, otherwise there would be no order in the universe". Read this in a beautiful book the other day (Bountiful, Blissful, Beautiful)

Including when we are induced, deliver via c-section, etc. 

Blessings to you all today mamas, and Andaluza, I hope you have peace this evening with your induction. You will be meeting your baby soon mama!