What have your experiences been like with becoming parents then getting back to being a couple again?
Hi, I'm Jennifer. I am a SAHM to an almost 3 year old boy. My hubby and I have been together for 9 years, married for 6. Pre-parenthood we both worked a lot and spent our leisure time watching T.V., I was in school so that took up a good chunk, going out to eat, being with friends, etc. Post-parenthood, we have a movie date every so often and thats about it on the date front. I feel we have lost, or maybe we never had a good connection. We just talk about Russ, the house, chores, family stuff. Rarely anything deep or substantial. I keep hoping it's a phase, that we are still adjusting to being parents and being a couple. Time hasn't seemed to help. I feel very lonely in my marriage, as he probably does too. But he doesn't open up to me, he has always had a wall up concerning his feelings. I plan on finding out our coverage for therapy, so hopefully we can get marriage counseling to get a third party's help on connecting daily and communicating effectively with kindness.
I know for sure, with no doubt, if we had another child or children things would be WAY worse. I just struggle with hopelessness that this is how it's always going to be, KWIM?
Anyone BTDT with struggling to be parents and find your way to being a couple not just parents? Not sure if this makes any sense, but here it is. Thank you in advance for your replies.