eleuthia, I'm glad you go the tongue tie diagnosed and taken care of so quickly! I hope things continue to improve.
Lily, thanks for your supportive words. I totally found the same thing about everyone having a different opinion about breastfeeding. It honestly makes me not want to ask for help which I know is bad. Thanks for sharing your own challenges with us, it does help to know that not everyone is a "natural" at this and especially after a hospital stay things can be kind of confusing. In other news, Welcome home, Piper! I am so happy for you guys. It's so special to have your little one in your native environment, although a bit freaky at times! :) I never mentioned how much I love her nursery, but you know I do :)
I'm sorry you're dealing with pain and a possible plugged duct, I hope you can get some good care and consistent advice for dealing with this!
Liz, you are kind of spot on, I think, about comfort sucking. While I do think there was some cluster feeding and Lyle getting used to not eating every two hours, I also think he just needed to nurse and comfort suck. Although I had a lot of reservations, we did end up giving him a pacifier during these freak outs where nothing else seems to work, that did work. I was against it because I didn't want anything else involved in this nursing relationship when he's so little and we have already had bottles, but at the same time we gave him a pacifier when he was under the billi lights to keep him calm and I felt the situation called for it. We are definitely not going to be using one all the time and I know it's controversial, but I feel like the calm that it gives him and our household will ultimately help us keep breastfeedfing, not the opposite.
Thanks for all your experiences and support!
Here's our update:
Lyle has still been latching awesomely since we started using cradle hold, and I hold him a lot more firmly and securely now, which I think helps. (Before my milk came in, I was sidelying, but I had trouble with that once the boobs got bigger, then we were doing football but it just wasn't working as well) I am so relieved by this, I was really worried the bottles had taught him bad habits. He had the same crazy fussy period last night (around this time, I am gearing up for it!) but then nursed so well at 3 a.m. and 6 a.m. It was very peaceful and I felt good about it. I didn't pump today except to empty one breast that was leaking after he had fed. I still am trying to encourage a bit more supply by pumping and hopefully I'm not overdoing it. I need to do more research about supply and pumping, etc, especially since I will eventually be going back to work full time. Overall I'm feeling a bit more zen about things, like if it takes pumping, a pacifier, and even a dreaded bottle of formula or two to get us all settled into nursing this little guy, it will all be worth it in the end. While it's true that many people have strong opinions about how to do things and what is good and what is absolutely evil when caring for a child, honestly the worst judgments were the ones I was imposing on myself.
Did I tell you guys he is gaining awesomely? He was up to 8 lbs 12 oz (6 oz above birth weight at 2 weeks) at his appointment Friday. (At the worst of the jaundice he was down to 7 .10 ) That is from a week of mostly breastfeeding, so we're feeling good he's getting what he needs. Trying to keep the faith we'll get his night time issues figured out too.