My DD has never really napped alone, even from the moment she was born she has always needed to be worn or held (not necessarily by me).
I had just kind of accepted it that for 45mins in-between each feed I would be stuck on the couch or trotting around with her in the Beco trying to get things done with one hand. We had an appointment at the health visitors office last week and she told me if she doesn't start napping alone by 6 months she will be so aware of what she likes she won't sleep at night without being held either. so far nights haven't been a problem. This freaked me out.
I have really been trying the last two days to get her to nap alone. It def works better in her crib, which is pushed up against our bed upstairs, than downstairs. It only seems to work if she falls asleep into a really deep sleep on me and I can slowly slowly transfer her into her bed with her paci. The slightest noise, like me turning on the baby monitor will wake her up. Sometimes she wakes up the second she is in her bed. I have read the No Cry sleep Solution and am now carrying a lovie around in my shirt to make it smell like me. I would love LOVE to get some things done, my house and body are a complete mess.
I try to watch for her sleepy cues but she goes from awake and playing to making 'uh uh' i'm really tired noises in a second. I'm EPing so I can't always jump up and get her. This morning she fell asleep taking her bottle (I had already pumped) but I had not had any breakfast of washed any bottles so I tried to put her in her play pen, she was back awake within a second.
I was talking to a neighbor and she said when she was little she wouldn't sleep so her parents left her in her bad, took the baby monitor and went next door and let her CIO for 30 mins for 3 nights, only going to check when it was quiet! I said to my DH i'm soooo far from trying that and he said why not? Everyone recommends it, although 30 mins is to long but surely 10 couldn't help!!!! I let her grumble and then cry for about 4 mins while I emptied the dishwasher this morning and I was nearly crying myself...
A lot of the books recommend going back to her when she wakes up and stroking her or singing but this all means absolutely nothing to my DD. This morning I caved and put her in the Beco, which doesn't fit her that great, so she could at least sleep but sometimes it's also just too hot to wear her plus I have to keep on the move so i'm typing this rocking really a lot. Someone suggested a swing but isn't that just swapping one evil for another? Won't she become addicted to that? I'm so worried about this 6 month cut off point.
Does anyone have some TRIED and TESTED ideas? Anyone in a similar situation? At least in the evenings if I let her nap on me I can sit and be with DH for a while, otherwise I hardly see him because i'm battling it out in the bedroom with DD. I'm going on more and more walks because I know she sleeps in the pram but come winter that won't be an option anymore.