My husband and I separated a month ago. We own a duplex so I moved with our daughter into the other half for the time being. He works nights so I bring her over every afternoon so they can have naptime together and lunch and hang out time. Then he takes her on Fridays and Saturdays, his days off. We agree on this arrangement (for now, once we don't live right next to each other I have told him that I won't drive her to him everyday for a nap and he agrees. Plus she won't be napping forever) We also agree on the amount of child support he should pay. (I have been a full-time mom with no income for three years) And generally we get along. We just aren't in love anymore.
BUT yesterday he asked if I could keep Jo all day Thursday because he has an appointment with an attorney. He wants to file right away and 'get legal and in writing all of the things we have talked about'. And, like I said, we do agree on most things. But not everything. (Who will own the house is what I'm not sure of. Because it might not be worth what we owe, he would like me to just walk away and let him try to keep it. And then Jo and I can live here as long as we want.) I told him that the landlord/tenant situation might not set up the right power structure for our arrangement and he just keeps saying that he's not trying to screw me over or anything.
I told him that if he retains a lawyer then they are legally obligated to advocate for HIS best interests and he said that his interests are Josephine's (our daughter) and if it's good for Jo its good for me.....
Honestly, I feel under-prepared. I have gotten some free legal advice over the phone but I'm not really sure what I want or what I need to ask even, it was less than helpful. I think I need to retain an attorney of my own but I don't have a job and very little money! My ex and I really do have an honest, decent relationship and I believe that he wouldn't try to hurt me but I am still worried.