Hi there...I'm not sure if this is the right place to post but I am looking for some feedback/guidance with disciplining my 4 year old. My DD has always been a challenge right from the beginning with reflux/colic. The past year and a half has been particularly difficult. I recently had her evaluated (a mini eval) and it turns out that she has mild ADD and language processing difficulties, specifically with pragmatic language, as well as motor planning challenges. The dr who evaluated her told me that she recommended speech therapy and that my dd's difficulties were very mild and that she would not qualify for state funding for her therapy. So, she is in speech therapy. However, it's her behaviour that is most worrisome to me. I have mentioned all of her behaviour issues to the therapists that have seen her and they don't seem to have any feedback. My husband and I are at a loss in terms of how to discipline her. Some examples of her behaviour include being aggressive towards younger children on the playground/beach etc., screaming and yelling at us if she doesn't get her way, pushing or hitting her younger sister (21 months), refusing to get dressed, get in the bath, eat etc. she seems angry alot. She also has several imaginary friends which we know is normal, however she talks about them to other kids who sometimes seem confused. When we are home she spends alot of time running back and forth in the living room almost obsessively whispering to herself. When we ask her what she is doing, she will say "I'm playing the little mermaid, etc."
When it is just the two of us she is a different child. I just took a trip with her alone for two days and she was very well behaved for me. As soon as we got home she was angry and lashing out at my husband and screaming and splashing at him because she didn't want to take a bath. Anyway, it's at the point where I am afraid to sign her up for any classes or bring her anywhere. School was a nightmare all last year and while it did seem to be a poor match with the teachers, I am afraid of this year going forward. Anyway, I'd love some feedback or guidance or any book recommendations etc.