My DS1 is extremely argumentative/whiny/whatever you want to call it. He has always been like this. He is almost 6 (would be starting K in a couple weeks) and STILL argues with us over brushing his teeth, and other have-to-be-done tasks. This is to give you an idea of his personality...he is also very bright, energetic, intense. However, other than special things, if he was allowed to do whatever he wanted, he would lay on the couch and watch TV, eating junk food. He is not one to really get into a project, or even think of a project that he would like to do "I'm bored" is a daily whine at our house.
We started doing some daily homeschool work last week, and there has been a fight pretty much every day . The actual "work" he needs to do is very little-like 20-30 minutes a day if he wouldn't argue even getting started so damn much. And I've even split it up.
I've explained to him that he HAS to either be homeschooled or go to school-this is the law. He definitely wants to be homeschooled, which we are committed to as well. But he won't stop arguing. I've thought about doing an unschooling approach with him, but as I stated above, he tends to want to do nothing (I am so in awe of all these little kids who come up with and work on all these cool projects). I am comfortable with taking an eclectic approach with a little definite schoolwork, and then following his interests the rest of the time. But at this point there is so much stress, no one is happy with anything. And I know things would not improve sending him to school-then it would be arguing about getting up, homework, behaving the way the school
Has anyone else ever had someone SO argumentative? How did you turn them around (or did you?) I feel his level of arguing is beyond normal, honestly-for the teeth brushing, going to bed, doing any type of chore, pretty much EVERY SINGLE THING that he himself does not want to do. But I have no idea if it is or not. All i know is that I've been in tears almost every day, as has he, and that is NOT the way I want this journey to go. Any tips would be appreciated-deeply.