You've probably already ruled it out, but adoption through fostercare is ridiculously inexpensive. You pay only a few small fees that add up to a total of $400 - $2000. And the entire time you foster, you receive reimbursement for the care of the children, which essentially negates any fees.
And in fostercare, you can be gender-specific, age-specific, etc. You can refuse to take any placement for any reason.
The only this is that adopting a newborn infant from fostercare is unlikely. But not impossible. So if that's what you want to do (which it sounds like it is) then you might want to at least consider a fostercare adoption. And of course, if you're open to adopting a toddler, school age child, or a teen, then fostercare is an excellent option!
You may want to look into it. Usually, you can attend an introductory seminar for free that will address many of the common questions and concerns that potential foster and adoptive parents have about fostercare. Just contact your local family services department to learn more.
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