My grandson is five years old and has been "my" baby since birth. His parents are not now and have never been in the picture. This is not my first time around as I raised 4 kids but I am stuck with this child.
My DGS is ALWAYS right. No matter what you tell him if he has decided he is right there is no way to change his mind. This leads to the belief that he is absolutly the boss. If he wants something and you say no he will argue, scream, yell, insist and say things like I don't love you, You are no longer my mommy you are mean etc but will not stop arguing.. Many a time I have said no and he comes right back with yes or completely ignores me and does what he wants until I physically restrain him from doing so. IE pick him up and escort him out of the room, remove the television in his room after he has turned it back on etc
Normally I would handle these infractions with time out or some other disipline (and do) but he does not equate the disipline with the "crime." and instead tells me I am mean and does NOT accept the punishment so that even a mild "I am busy I will get it in a minute" ends up being a serious fight ending with me taking deep breaths to keep from screaming and him being totally mounthy nasty and disrespectful. His behaviour is not centered on me either. He acts the same way with my hubby, his aunts and uncles, his little friends, people next door etc