Hi everyone! I am new on here and I need help.
I am 38 weeks pregnant with my first baby and I am having a crisis of faith in my midwifery group! When I went in on Monday, I worked with a midwife I have never seen before. Something about her really put me off - she was nice, but something seemed really odd. She kept giving me extraneous info and wanted to check my cervix, but then went back, and said checking my cervix made no real difference - the whole appointment was kind of bewildering to me. She told me nitrites were showing up in my urine, meaning I had a possible UTI infection. I have no symptoms, which I get, but she prescribed a medicine that no one in their last month of pregnancy should take (it causes regular to severe anemia in to-term babies). Specifically I asked this midwife about the prescription and she said there were no side effects, except I may go into labor a couple days early. When I got the pills and read the drug info, I saw the ALL CAPS warning for pregnant women past 36 weeks. I caught the mistake, called and the midwives I checked in with where nonchalant about the whole thing and told me to call back in a couple days, when my test results could be confirmed via the lab. I did, but not before calling my doula, who works exclusively with this group. She got really firm with me and talked to me like a little kid about how I need to ask one of the midwives to be a team leader and how it's up to me to feel better about the midwives. I told her that if the same midwife who I worked with that day was the one on-call the night I went into labor, I would not use the midwives and I would transfer to the adjoining hospital. She got very upset with me and told me they could not allow me into delivery without the midwives or a separate OBgyn and they'd send me eight miles away to another, crappy hospital. At that point, I was like, fine.
All I want is someone to acknowledge that, holy crap whoa, I should not have been prescribed that medicine! I have no idea why my doula is treating this like I need an attitude adjustment. I really, really want to feel better about this, and to use the midwifery because, up until this point, it's been fine. In fact, some people are amazing over there. And my doula - jeez. I cried on the phone with her and I'm crying now writing this because something feels wrong and I hate people telling me that I'm going to get shipped downstream for being difficult. Has anyone dealt with this before? Any suggestions?