My dsd is undeniably overweight. She's ten, about 5', and weighs 130 lbs. She has a big tummy, and a double chin. However, she is very active, loves swimming, gymnastics, riding bikes, and is always out and about. She does eat more than the other kids, but I have never seen her binge. The only diet thing she does is go for a long time without eating, then eat a lot of heavy foods because she's so hungry. Honestly, lifestyle wise, there isn't a good reason for her to be so heavy.
My take on it, and her dad's, is just to continue offering healthy foods and opportunities to be active. We've had blood tests done, including thyroid function, because her doctor is sure she is a chip-swilling couch potato with pre-diabetes. Everything came back normal. She's always been big, and her mother is big- but her mom really does have an inactive lifestyle and a not-so-great diet. She (dsd) is also very strong and has great balance, which tells me that she could have significant muscle mass contributing to her high weight. Any suggestions on what to look into health wise would be appreciated.
The other big issue, though, is her growing feelings about her body's appearance. Kids at school have started calling her fat. Relatives are starting to police her food intake when she's visiting. She talks about dieting and how to lose weight. So far she hasn't tried to restrict her calories, because we both keep up with the mantra "just keep eating a healthy diet, keep being active, you are beautiful just the way you are." My mother has been dieting off and on (is there any other way to diet?) for 60 years, and is still overweight, so I know all too intimately that dieting doesn't work.
My heart breaks to think of dsd going into our society fat. It feels like throwing her to the wolves. I don't blame her for wanting to get rid of that big tummy at all. I wish she could just blow off all the comments, but that doesn't seem realistic. So how do we help her navigate this without falling into the weight obsession trap? We are working on a referral to see a dietician, with the idea that if she learns more about how food affects her body, she will feel empowered to eat the way she wants to, but not be fooled into thinking that calorie restriction will solve her problems.
Any other resources or ideas?