DH and I had a horrible time naming our first - before we even got engaged or knew we would have kids, we had talked (and agreed) that one of the only reasons I wanted kids was to name a son after my dad, who I adore. When we found out we were having a boy, we decided to name him MyDad DHDad...and DH's dad got offended he was the middle and not the first. DS remained unnamed until a few days after birth because DH wouldn't budge and insisted on not offending his dad, and now DS has a totally random first name and 2 middles...the granddad's names. Honestly? It still rankles.
When we found out we were having a girl this time, DH suggested a name I had casually suggested when I was PG the first time - we never seriously discussed girl's names the first time, and when we discussed them this time, it's one of the few that kept staying on the list. I think the name is really beautiful, I just worry that she's going to have a horrible time her whole life since it is guaranteed to be misspelled and mispronounced by every person she encounters. It was so nice to have a name settled on that we both agreed on in advance, however, that I gave in to it months ago.
It came out today when some friends are over that the universal consensus (which I suspected, but didn't know how severely they all felt) is that the name is truly horrible and borders on child cruelty. That was also my mother's response when I told her the name, though to her credit she quickly shut up when she realized it was set and has sent baby gifts addressed to her. I do find that every time someone asks what the name will be - whether a client, a friend, or the bank teller - I hem and haw and feel like I have to defend or explain it... So now I don't know what to do. I talked to DH briefly about it tonight (he's still out of town because of his dad's funeral), and his thoughts are "screw them....," but OTOH, I don't want my daughter to suffer her whole life because I was too tired to argue...
So...drumroll, please...is Saoirse really that bad a name? It's Irish for "freedom" and is pronounced "seer-sha." It's a popular name in Ireland, but we're only Irish by ethnicity, not nationality; it's not like we're ever moving there. Her middle name would be Kateri, which is both the name of my confirmation saint and a variant of Kathryn, which is my middle, so even though she could maybe nickname to Kate or Katie, it's not like the middle is a normal name she could fall back on either, and there's no decent nicknames for Saoirse. I hate feeling tense every time someone asks what the name will be; I also don't want to look at names anymore and don't want to fight with DH, especially since his dad just died. But I'm due imminently... Ugh. Thoughts?