Is anyone dealing with this? When the older sib is ASD and you worry about how their behavior (or difficult relational skills) will affect a younger sib...?
My 8yo ds is ASD and I have a very emotionally sensitive 3yo dd. He sometimes doesn't even acknowledge she's there when she's full-on saying his name over and over about a foot away from him--and kind of getting upset that he's ignoring her. If he talks to her, it's not really engaging with her. He's usually got a nose in a book and answering the wrong answer to a question just to answer SOMEthing because I've finally raised my voice. But it hurts her feelings. And forget eye contact. Ever.
And he's kind of mean to her. Not intentionally, but sometimes he's a really mean 2yo in terms of how he acts with her and she IDOLIZES him. I worry about what this is going to grow in her in terms of her idea of what loving relationships should be.
Am I nuts?