Apologies this may be in the wrong topic area.
I understand this is a forum for mothers but as my wife spends nearly her whole day busy in the home and taking care of our daughter (an they're both sleeping atm) I decided to post it up here and see if there is any help out there. Our daughter has been breast feeding the entire time but needs the breast to go to sleep and if she stirs/wakes up in the night also needs the boob to get back to sleep. This is a troubling ordeal sometimes as my wife is lying in bed with her for a half-hour or more trying to get her to sleep. As I see it there are probably a few problems here..
Over-tired. Our daughter has some crazy sleep habits which I believe has to do with lack of routine naps, she likes to nap at 1:30pm or so and sometimes this works but other days when we have to go out to take care of things this is just not possible. These days she may nap at like 4-5pm for a couple of hours.. This seems to make it a lot harder for her to pass out later on at night.
Super addicted to boob. She really loves the boobies and is all about "two boob" as she puts it, I know this drives my wife crazy sometimes she just wants to relax but our daughter is mauling her breasts. She also likes to pinch the cr*p out of her nipples I know this is really pissing my wife off.
Never attempted to teach her anything else. I ultimately blame us for not knowing better earlier, I think this situation has gotten out of hand simply because we needed to do what worked initially. Our daughter was very "collicky" and we basically had to sleep on shifts for the second or third month I cannot even remember, we tried many $cam remedies that did nothing but lighten out wallets.
I've tried to help her get to sleep on my own, this worked one time when her mom was out for the night with her friends. I believe this is because my daughter got used to the idea that boobies just were not available before she got tired, truthfully I expected this night to be a hellish experience for the both of us but she passed out relatively easily with me simply singing her a song and lying in bed next to her.
However, attempting to repeat this success has not yielded any further success.. She cries for her momma and eventually I think my wife cannot take it just comes in an gives her the boob.
So I'm looking for advice basically how can we reduce her reliance on breasts for sleepy time comfort? I plan on trying more of the same thing as before and trying to help my wife cope maybe suggest she throw on some headphone listen to some tunes/read a book or whatever. It is tough because we live in a one-bedroom apartment so there is really no where for her to go to physically remove herself from the situation.
Other than that I'm kind of at a loss. I try to distract my daughter when she is crying for momma with things like a stuffed toy she likes or showing her city lights outside our window, she seems to like these things.. sing her a song, lie her back down when she seems to relax.. She will get up and crawl to the bedroom door crying for momma, it is pretty tough to do this over an over routine.
Anyhow, any advice on this would be really appreciated. Thanks for reading.