I called good old mom and dad even though I'm 36. Dad said 'no one will be very surprised.' and followed with some negative remarks about STBXH then got on the computer to help me find a lawyer.
I cried off and on for three days. I meet with a lawyer tomorrow. STBXH has worked at a job and I have been home with th kids and the dog. I have done everything except run the snow blower and the bills. I drew a line at snow blower, he tried several times to teach me. He took over the bills years ago and would not let me see them or his pay stubs.
Friday STBXH gave me a packet of papers he had printed off the Internet to start this Divorse. I said I wasn't filling anything out or signing anything till I had someone to advise me but I'd look them over. Those have been our only spoken words this week. The rest has been email or text. I finally looked them over and all sadness left me. He has been making 12,000 dollars a month. I have been living hand to mouth for the last 12 years, skimping and trying to figure out how to buy even groceries. I never buy new clothes or shoes or makeup.
I get now why people never understood why I didn't have any money ever. I told my best friend on Thursday. She was glad for me as was her husband, a man that used to be friends with STBXH. I guess I should of done this years ago, but I ran a home child care and I thought I'd have to leave as the house is in his name and I knew that would destroy the business. Then last year I cloused the business and subbed and I thought things were getting better, but I guess I was wrong.
Oh, and the topper on the cake. He wants me, who still hasn't found a job, and may have to move for a job, to cal the morgage people and get the house changed to my name. I can't afford the house and I don't trust him.