hi mamas. i'm stressed out beyond belief, and just need to bitch a bit if that's ok.
we bought a used minivan at the end of july, because our car is too small for two carseats and we needed a second car since dh and i will be living on opposite coasts for november and december. we bought the van "as is", but to be safe we bought an optional warranty for it. and then we took it to a mechanic to get it checked out, and it got a clean bill of health. our permanent address is in a different state than we currently live, because dh is in the military. so we had to drive the van 10 hours to register it in the state where our permanent address is. 8 hours into the trip the transmission suddenly cut out. we spent the night in a hotel and dh's parents drove 2 hours to come get us and we had the car towed to a mechanic. we called the warranty company, and they weasled out of paying by basically making so many hoops to jump through that it would be impossible to file the claim without costing us thousands of extra dollars. and the mechanic we towed it to, who was the only one near where we broke down, was somewhat clueless about transmissions. dh had only taken leave for a few days just for the trip down and back, so he had to fly back to base this morning, leaving me and dd at the in-law's to try to sort the van situation out. we couldn't get anything done with the car 2 hours away from me, so we payed $800 to have it towed to a transmission guy in the town i'm staying in. now we find out tomorrow if the transmission can be fixed for less than we payed for the van in the first place. we maxed out the credit card with the hotel and all the towing fees and the plane ticket to get dh back to base. and what we have left in savings is for our moving costs in 6 weeks. so if it is anything more than a couple hundred dollars to fix the van, we have to just junk it and try to cut our losses. which will mean making payments for the next 4 years on the loan for a van we drove a little less than a month.
the whole thing has been so ridiculously complicated and frustrating, and i feel totally helpless. i actually had a dream last night that i was raped and car jacked and then couldn't find my husband to tell him. i'm lucky that i get along really well with my in-laws, but that is about the only silver lining i've got. i had pregnancy high blood pressure with dd, which started about this point in the pregnancy, and i'm supposed to be avoiding stress and taking it really easy.... i've had an upset stomach, tension headache, and tight chest since last tuesday when this mess started, and starting to feel like something is up with my blood pressure again. i'm feeling jittery and hot and puffy like i did when the high blood pressure kicked in with dd. so now even if all is miraculously worked out with the van, my chances of a birth center birth are disappearing.
can i just get some "awwww"s and "there there, it will be ok"s?