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post #21 of 24

Thanks everyone - I am feeling much better a week later....We will continue ttc and will send lots of baby dust to all of us...dust.gif

post #22 of 24

mirpmama, glad to hear you are feeling more encouraged!  ttc'ing is definitely a roller coaster of emotions.  Especially when we feel like we are against the clock. 

 

Like so many on here, I was older (37) when I married-- DH and I had just met the year before.  I feel so blessed to have my children.  I, too, find it annoying (sometimes more than slightly!) when people assume that we are done now, because of my age. It has gotten worse, with the comments coming my way, since we have a boy and girl.  People always say we have a millionaire family-- where did that phrase start, anyway?!  Also, on top of it all, some have even said to me that I may be pushing it by wanting to have another one-- these two children were born healthy, "what if the next one isn't", "you may be pushing your luck", etc.

 

I have more to write, but I have to go-- baby is crying!

 

Looking forward to more conversation on here!

post #23 of 24
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Originally Posted by TenzinsMama View Post

 

  Also, on top of it all, some have even said to me that I may be pushing it by wanting to have another one-- these two children were born healthy, "what if the next one isn't", "you may be pushing your luck", etc.

 

 

That has to be one of the worst comments.

 

When we had our miscarriage my MIL actually blamed it on DH being over 40. Said it was probably for the best as he was too old to have healthy swimmers and the baby would have been a disaster. And she said this to the day after we found out the baby had died and I was still waiting for the miscarriage to happen.

 

Now that we have our 2 boys the assumption is that we're just trying for a girl, and if we get one we'll be done. NO, we're trying for a BABY, and we won't be done until I reach the menopause and can't have any more.

 

Even though we are very open about NOT planning our family, and just seeing what happens, we still get surprised reactions when people find out we aren't done with 2. Our children are the only grandchildren on DH's side, as he only has a brother and so far his wife has not been able to get pregnant and after several years of trying they have given up. You'd think that since we will be providing the only grandchildren that MIL would be happy for us to have as many as possible, but instead she is always so negative about us having more.

post #24 of 24

Yeah....we are getting a lot of "you want MORE?"....um, we only have THREE....my response is always, if i was younger i would have like 6 more, but with my age just one, maybe 2....people have NO idea what to do...like having more than 3 kids is the weirdest thing in the world....sigh....

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