First-time mama question here! My mom is concerned about my not wanting an episiotomy. She's pretty old-school, and firmly believes that if I don't get one, I'll tear, and that's a billion times worse to her. (It's so funny - her distrust of doctors is how I learned to question EVERYTHING, and yet when push comes to shove, she's still very much a baby boomer wanting to do what the doc says.)
Has anyone been through both? Or do you have a good article or something you've found that I can send her? My own belief of "Well, I think my body can handle this, and if I do tear, it's really not that much different from having someone cut me in the long run..." does NOT seem reassuring to her! I'm not changing my plans to make her feel better, but I would like to reassure her if I can. I'm her baby, after all, and I'm starting to "get" what that might mean, emotionally speaking.